The LGBTQIA+ movement is suddenly very popular. Businesses, Hollywood, politicians, churches and schools are all showing off rainbow colours. While it is good news that more people seem to be accepting of diversity, what is it that we are actually supporting?
Contrary to what many people believe, the movement is not one big happy family under one flag. The two main aspects are LGB (lesbian, gay and bisexual) about sexual orientation, and T (transgender) about gender identity, but some say there is a clash of interests, and groups have split because of it. Trans activists follow gender identity theory or a trans ideology which teaches that one’s gender identity overrides one’s biological sex, and therefore, a trans woman is a woman, whether she has a penis or not. On this premise, gay women have been criticised for not dating trans women.
Does this not undermine the very thing that gay people have been fighting for, for all these years: the right to love someone of the same biological sex? Surely this is a conflict between the LGB and the T? Or is sexual attraction not biological? Many trans people say that the most difficult aspect of their lives is finding an intimate partner, because for most people, sexual attraction is biological. A gender ideology that says this isn’t true, can lead to tragic consequences. Many detransitioners say that they initially transitioned because of external or internalised homophobia and by transitioning, they believed they would be accepted as straight.
In Iran, homosexuality is a crime, but transitioning is accepted. Even in First World countries, anecdotal evidence shows homophobic parents transitioning their gay children. Is society going backwards? As one Youtuber asks: “Is trans ideology new-age homophobia?” Or a new form of conversion therapy? If biology is irrelevant, what does gay or straight even mean? There are some people who say that they love “the person” rather than their sex or gender. This is an interesting idea. Perhaps some people connect on a more emotional or spiritual level and hopefully, in a deep, loving relationship, we all do. Does that mean we deny our bodies and our sexual instincts?
As humans, we are sexual beings. The horrors of conversion therapy that so many gay people endured have surely shown us that our sexual orientation cannot be changed. There would be no need for a gay movement if we were all attracted to each other on a purely emotional level. Can anyone honestly say that when they are sexually attracted to someone, biology does not matter? For example, if you are a cis heterosexual man, would you have a sexual relationship with a man who identifies as a woman but has a beard and a penis? If your answer is “no”, you do not believe in gender identity theory, and if you admit this out loud, you will be called transphobic. If you join the chant: “Trans women are women”, you must believe it in every sense. These ideologies are not philosophical conundrums for academics and students to debate. They have real-life and sometimes tragic consequences and they affect us all.
Of course, we should support human rights whether in relation to sexual orientation, identity or anything else. Everyone deserves love and acceptance. However, we can support the people without the ideology. Trans people themselves don’t all agree with the ideology. Some actively oppose it. People were transitioning long before gender ideology became popular. We have a right to question an ideology and activism that is potentially harmful to the very people we are supporting.
For years, the gay rights movement has been telling us that society needs to change. Now trans activists are telling us that bodies need to change because thousands of children are “born in the wrong bodies”. Big Pharma and plastic surgeons are only too ready and willing with their hormones and scalpels, even though medicalisation has high physical and mental-health risks.
Let’s at least first try to change society so that we accept people as they are; that we teach our children not to bully stereotypically feminine boys or masculine girls; that we accept love as love, whether homosexual or heterosexual; that we respect everyone’s bodies and everyone’s rights. It wasn’t that long ago that men wore stockings, high heels and make-up, but they were still called men. If we stop stereotyping gender roles, clothes, toys and careers, we can let people be people and accept them in all their diversity. Sadly, gender ideology is detracting from a move towards such a society.
LGBTQIA+ is seen as one umbrella movement, and the anti-biological views of some trans activists are giving the right, and anyone else who opposes homosexuality, the ammunition to attack the whole movement. They can hide their homophobia while they fight controversial issues like trans women in cis women’s spaces, rushed medicalisation and sterilisation of children, the controversy over: “What is a woman?” and the gender theorists insistence on using bizarre words like “menstruaters”, “birthing people” and “chest feeders”, instead of the word “women”.
Ironically, some radical feminists are even debating joining forces with the right to fight gender ideology. The left is failing women, parents and children. How crazy that they are getting support from men who are sexist and homophobic. Where will this all end? The unlikely coalition of conservatives and radical feminists; as well as ordinary women who refuse to be called “birthing people”; women who believe that men identifying into women’s spaces is dangerous and unfair; detransitioners who will no longer be silenced; and traumatised parents whose children have been medicalised against their will, and even taken away from them; will they eventually, bring down gender ideology? And with it — unless we separate issues now and stand against the ideology— the whole LGBTQIA+ movement.