Parents, caregivers equipped with valuable skills
"It was a light bulb moment when I realised that there are values that I did not have."
Duduza – Community Media Trust recently hosted the Family Matters Programme at the Duduza Community Centre for parents and caregivers.
Caroline Mputhi, a young parent who participated in the programme, said it was important to take part because there is no manual for parenting.
“It guided us to be able to communicate and relate to our children better, especially during these times of technology. There is so much information out there, but it is better if our children learn from us in the home,” she added.
The programme was developed to cater for parents of children between nine and 14 years old.
Bafana Dishela, another participant, said the programme helped him to understand the difference between a child and an adult, and how they communicate and understand things differently.
“That way we can make adjustments to better cater for each other,” he explained.
Community Media is an NGO focusing on communication in the fields of basic human rights. It aims to empower individuals and communities, encouraging them to take part in managing and improving their own lives, promoting health and health seeking behavior and basic human rights.
Facilitator Motlalepule Kekana’s own parenting challenges ignited her passion for helping others parent better.
“I have seen the benefits of being present and accessible to your child. A simple hug and kiss goes a long way in showing your child that you love them.
“Parents need to understand that children need them. How children interact with the outside world is largely affected by what they are getting or missing out on at home,” she explained.
Zodwa Mabuza said the programme put her at the level of her child’s understanding.
“We want to have positive relationships with our children. Some of us grew up being spanked, but now we know that children do understand when we speak to them in the right way.
“We want our children to also have good relationship with the people in our communities,” she explained.
Ntombi Mdluli added that she grew up just being told what to do, and not given a chance to express herself.
“Now I understand that healthy communication is when both of you can freely express yourselves.”
Balekani Moloi agreed with her.
“It was a light bulb moment when I realised that there are values that I did not have. I also learned not to be hasty in dealing with sensitive issues with my child.
“I am the superintendent of my child. I now know that I have to take full responsibility for my child and always know where they are.”
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Rebecca Mabena said she realised that it is her responsibility to teach her children about sex.
“They should not learn from outside because I can’t control that information. It is also something that we must talk about often, until I am sure that they understand.
“We have to be open, and answer whatever questions they may have. We have to give our children attention and do some of the things that they enjoy,” she added.
Some of the parents said they saw positives changes in their children after the first session. The programme will start another cycle soon, and interested parents can register at the Duduza Community Centre.
Space is limited.
