Toddlers

What you need to know about SIDS

Sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) is the unexplained death, usually during sleep, of a seemingly healthy baby less than a year old.

Physical factors associated with SIDS include:

  • Brain abnormalities. Some infants are born with problems that make them more likely to die of SIDS. In many of these babies, the portion of the brain that controls breathing and arousal from sleep doesn’t work properly.
  • Low birth weight. Premature birth or being part of a multiple birth increases the likelihood that a baby’s brain hasn’t matured completely, so he or she has less control over such automatic processes as breathing and heart rate.
  • Respiratory infection. Many infants who died of SIDS recently had a cold, which may contribute to breathing problems.

During pregnancy, the risk of SIDS is also affected by the mother, especially if she:

  1. Is younger than 20.
  2. Smokes cigarettes.
  3. Uses drugs or alcohol.
  4. Has inadequate prenatal care.

*Information courtesy of MayoClinic.

Ten ways to make potty training easy

By: Bernice Maune

It’s an exciting time as your toddler moves away from diapers to becoming more independent as potty training begins. It doesn’t have to be a fight nor a frightful experience for your child, you can make this transition fun and with less fuss by using a combination of methods to train them.

Timing is everything

Take your time as you begin the process. Don’t rush your child or compare his growth to that of other toddlers who may have already mastered using their potty. Instead get rid of timelines and rather monitor your child’s individual growth by watching how he reacts when you mention the potty and what he does when you lay it infront of him.

Communication is key

Talk to your child about the potty and introduce it in a fun way. Make a song and dance about the potty so your toddler doesn’t view it as a menacing object.

 Name the potty

Give the potty a name so that your child can bond with his potty. Calling it by name also makes it seem like it is a personable object which he can look forward to using.

Watch videos of other kids using a potty

A visual experience of seeing other kids using a potty will instil a sense of curiosity in your baby’s mind. She will want to find out how to use the potty once she sees others using it as well.

Keep a potty in all the bathrooms

Practise makes perfect, your kid will get used to seeing a potty in each bathroom and practise sitting on it.

Make a big deal of the potty

When your child uses the potty, clap or laugh to show that they have done something good. They will begin associating positive expressions with the potty which will urge them to use it more often.

Establish routine around training

Pick a time when you show your toddler the potty so that they can begin to look forward to those moments. Make it a fun time by rewarding your toddler with a treat each time.

Be open to accidents

Don’t punish your child when they have made an accident. Patience is key as you are both finding a routine around training.

Give your child space with the potty

If your toddler wants to wander off alone to explore the potty, keep an eye but don’t be too present. Watch from a distance so that your toddler is safe but still allow him to feel a sense of trust and responsibility for his potty.

Comfort training

If there are older siblings in the house, get them to help by showing your toddler how to sit on the potty so that they do not feel like they are the only ones who need training. Some toddlers may wonder why everyone else uses the toilet and they don’t. Including the family will put your child’s mind at ease during what may be a confusing time.

Tip:The American Association of Pediatriciansstates that potty training is the time in a child’s life when they are most vulnerable to abuse.

“That’s because the punishment doesn’t work; it actually makes it more difficult for the child to control the accidents. The parent gets more frustrated, and the punishment escalates. The situation spirals out of control, and tragedies are more likely.

In short, punishing your child for potty accidents will NOT hasten potty learning. In fact, it will lengthen the process, and it will damage your relationship with your child. Just don’t do it.”

 

Watch this video on potty training with your toddler

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How to make learning fun for your toddler

Teach your child without them even realising that they are learning something new. You can make this a fun and interactive experience by playing around with colours, textures, smells and different toys to stimulate your child’s mind.

Parents can also take learning a step further for their toddler by being creative to make this appeal to their child. Role playing and musical toys can teach your tot the alphabet, help them build their vocabulary or teach them songs.

Buy building toys and puzzles to help your toddler understand how to put things together, recognise patterns and to refine their motor skills.

Use colourful posters, stickers and stationery to make everything appear fun. The point is to have fun while playing so reward your child with an outing or an interactive toy after a lesson.

Another way to educate your toddler is to narrate what you are doing when cooking by telling your child what you are using to measure out the cooking oil for example and what ingredients you are using and the portions.

Parents can also use TV to teach their toddlers. Cartoon TV series Dora theExplorer is a hit with children and that’s because it is very engaging. In each episode Dora and her friends discover a new place and ask each other questions about their discoveries. This prompts your child to listen and respond, equipping them with comprehension skills.

Mokgadi Maloba, a twenty-nine year old environmental manager is mom to three-year old Kgodisho. They live in Middleburg, Mpumalanga and Kgodisho has a nanny and attends crèche full-time.

About making learning fun for her toddler, Mokgadi says she relies a lot on her son’s pre-school activities and lessons but makes it a point to read to her son every night before bed.

“This has become our evening ritual. I use it to teach him through books without it feeling formal. We read, identify pictures and discuss to the best of his understanding what the story meant.

“He also attends early reading lessons and I have a subscription to a service, Wacky Box that sends a box filled with activities and games for us to play. I prefer this because the experiences last us a month at a time and there are different themes for us to enjoy.”

Watch how to make learning fun in this video

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Natural remedies to help your toddler overcome flu this winter

With lower temperatures, colds and flu can spread faster among toddlers especially when they attend crèche and preschool.

For some, natural remedies are a better option than medication to fight colds as medication can be dangerous for kids younger than six. We bring you several options to use if your toddler is fighting a viral infection;

Rest

Let your child sleep undisturbed in a comfortable environment. Prop his head with pillows and ensure the room is well ventilated and dimly lit.

Steam it out

Use a humidifier or a cool-mist vaporiser in your child’s bedroom when she’s sleeping, resting, or playing in the room.

Give your child a warm bath in a steamy bathroom. Let a hot shower run for a few minutes before getting the tub ready. Let her play in the bath as long as she likes (supervised, of course, unless she’s old enough to be just within earshot).

Hydration

Keep her hydrated by giving her water and diluted juice. Juices which are high in Vitamin C like orange juice will support her immune system.

Ointment

Use methylated ointments such as peppermint and eucalyptus to rub his chest before bed. This will unblock the nostrils and throat so that he can sleep and breathe more easily during night time.

Soup

Feed your toddler chicken soup, heated until warm. This will nourish them and boost their energy levels as they recover from the flu.

Tips to get your toddler sleeping and staying put in their own bed

By: Bernice Maune

You’ve tried lullabies and fairytales but your toddler still keeps on finding their way to your bed. Before bedtime they may appear comfortable and ready to fall and stay asleep in their own bed but in the middle of the night, you find them cosying up to you.

We’ve compiled some tips and tricks to get your child to enjoy sleeping in their own bed with the aim of creating a routine that they will come to love and enjoy and more importantly look forward to sleeping on their own bed.

If your child is afraid of the dark, place a lamp next to their bedside using a low kilowatt light bulb which will not light up the room too brightly but provides enough lighting for them to feel safe to sleep in. As time goes on, begin popping into their room to switch the lamp off with the aim of getting them accustomed to waking up with the light completely off.

Spend a few minutes tucking your child in and talking to them about their day. This will help to get their mind off being alone in the room. Wait until they have dozed off and if they sneak into your room, let them fall asleep and have a conversation about what you can do to make them feel more comfy in their own space. Be patient with your little one, they may be experiencing separation anxiety and the last thing you want to do is make them feel rejected.

Go shopping for a teddy bear or toy that will become your child’s official bed mate. Make an occasion of the experience and explain to your toddler that the cuddly toy will keep them company every night and will not go anywhere. Be clear that this is not a replacement for you but rather a stand in and that you will always be there.

Use relaxation techniques to get your child to ease their mind and calm down. Show them how to breathe in and out, lift their shoulders up and down and move their neck slowly from side to side.

Ensure that you have a set routine each day such as dinner, followed by a bath, a story and some tucking in before switching off the light or lamp. Children appreciate routine and feel safe when they have structure.

Keep crayons and paper on the side of the bed and encourage your child to draw any scary characters that they have seen in their dreams. Talk to them about what they have dreamt about and explain that dreams are normal and that sometimes there are nice dreams and nightmares. The aim is to make your child feel comfortable in their own bed, understanding that dreams are a normal occurrence of life and that each day they can look forward to a peaceful night’s rest.

Lastly keep your frustration under control. Yelling at your child will only make them feel scared and will not help them sleep better. Speak in a gentle tone, make jokes and laugh to show them that sleeping alone isn’t something to fear but to embrace as they grow older.

Weaning your toddler off breastfeeding

Your toddler loves the breast and you are struggling to make the transition to exclusively putting him on the bottle.

Firstly it is essential to note that breastfeeding is healthy and reinforces your child’s immune system as breast milk contains antibodies to fight infections and viruses.

The World Health Organisation recommends that all babies should be breastfeed until six months and gradually introduced to solids while continuing to be breastfeed for two years and in some cases until older.

However, the weaning stage is inevitable and introducing it may be a tricky transition for mothers. We’ve spoken to a mother who has ample experience in weaning her children off the breast. She shares her experience below.

MotlatsoZandberg (30) is from Alexandra in Johannesburg and now lives in the Netherlands with her family. She is a mom to three children, two boys, Khumo and Zayn aged nine and two and a four-year old girl, Hailey. She shares her experience with Parenting 101.

Didyou breastfeed all of your children?

Yes I breastfeed all three of my children but only Zayn was exclusively breastfeed. Khumo stopped himself at 8 months and it’s because he preferred the bottle. Same thing with Hailey she preferred the bottle and she stopped breastfeeding herself at 6 months or so.

Both of them had breastfeeding and bottle feeding from day 1.

How did you make the transition from breast to bottle?

My youngest, Zayn was a breast baby so when I tried to introduce the bottle he didn’t have time for that. At 14 months I weaned Zayn of the breast in 2 stages each lasting a week.

Week 1- I cut day feedings to one feeding during the day when he napped

Week 2 – I cut his night feed before bed

Week 3 – I cut his midnight feed


How did your son react to the transition?
Because he stayed with me at home – he had meltdowns when he needed the boobies and I had to be strong and not give in.I originally wanted to stop feeding him at 12 months but I didn’t, not because he couldn’t but because I also was not ready to yet.

Motlatso shares her top tips for moms looking tomake the transition from breast to bottle

  1. My tips to new moms would be yes breastfeeding your baby is the best but sometimes it just doesn’t work out. Accept that and embrace the bottle.
  2. Before you wean you baby be 100% sure you are ready no matter the baby’s age – it starts with you being emotionally and mentally prepared.
  3. If you have any doubt about weaning then wait a bit there is no right or wrong time to wean and each child is different.
  4. Once you choose a method of weaning stick to it completely so as not to confuse your toddler.

Five things you need to check about your child's pre-school care

Your toddler loves the breast and you are struggling to make the transition to exclusively putting him on the bottle.

Firstly it is essential to note that breastfeeding is healthy and reinforces your child’s immune system as breast milk contains antibodies to fight infections and viruses.

The World Health Organisation recommends that all babies should be breastfeed until six months and gradually introduced to solids while continuing to be breastfeed for two years and in some cases until older.

However, the weaning stage is inevitable and introducing it may be a tricky transition for mothers. We’ve spoken to a mother who has ample experience in weaning her children off the breast. She shares her experience below.

MotlatsoZandberg (30) is from Alexandra in Johannesburg and now lives in the Netherlands with her family. She is a mom to three children, two boys, Khumo and Zayn aged nine and two and a four-year old girl, Hailey. She shares her experience with Parenting 101.

Didyou breastfeed all of your children?

Yes I breastfeed all three of my children but only Zayn was exclusively breastfeed. Khumo stopped himself at 8 months and it’s because he preferred the bottle. Same thing with Hailey she preferred the bottle and she stopped breastfeeding herself at 6 months or so.

Both of them had breastfeeding and bottle feeding from day 1.

How did you make the transition from breast to bottle?

My youngest, Zayn was a breast baby so when I tried to introduce the bottle he didn’t have time for that. At 14 months I weaned Zayn of the breast in 2 stages each lasting a week.

Week 1- I cut day feedings to one feeding during the day when he napped

Week 2 – I cut his night feed before bed

Week 3 – I cut his midnight feed


How did your son react to the transition?
Because he stayed with me at home – he had meltdowns when he needed the boobies and I had to be strong and not give in.I originally wanted to stop feeding him at 12 months but I didn’t, not because he couldn’t but because I also was not ready to yet.

Motlatso shares her top tips for moms looking tomake the transition from breast to bottle

  1. My tips to new moms would be yes breastfeeding your baby is the best but sometimes it just doesn’t work out. Accept that and embrace the bottle.
  2. Before you wean you baby be 100% sure you are ready no matter the baby’s age – it starts with you being emotionally and mentally prepared.
  3. If you have any doubt about weaning then wait a bit there is no right or wrong time to wean and each child is different.
  4. Once you choose a method of weaning stick to it completely so as not to confuse your toddler.

How to keep your toddler's skin moisturised in winter

By: Bernice Maune

The winter season brings with it harsh weather which can affect your toddler’s smooth skin which is usually kissable and soft.

However, you can prepare yourself for the change in weather by following our tips to keeping your bundle of joy’s skin soft and smooth as ever.

Hydration

Your child should be well hydrated during any season but pay extra attention by giving your child water and liquids which will help to keep them hydrated from the inside out. Focusing on breast milk and formula keeps your baby plenty hydrated and helps ensure he gets all the extra important nutrients he needs.

Moisturiser

Pick a moisturiser which is cream and water based instead of a lotion which may contain additives and fragrances. Stick to products that contain both water and oils but no fragrances and few chemical additives. Aim to moisturise your baby right after bath time to ensure that the moisturiser is quickly absorbed while the skin is still damp. If possible, bath and moisturise your toddler twice a day.

Baby friendly soap

Choose a soap or shampoo that is either fragrance free or lightly fragranced to keep chemicals and additives being absorbed into your baby’s skin at a minimum. This can result in dry or irritated skin so picking a moisturiser which feeds your child’s skin and nourishes it will reduce and skin irritation problems.

Remedy for chapped lips, cheeks and noses

These areas are affected as they are the most exposed and are usually moist from your toddler licking their lips or drooling all over themselves. Use a barrier cream or Vaseline to shield your baby from experiencing dry, cracked lips, nose or cheeks.

Skin rashes and infections

Some toddlers may get a rash or skin infection such as eczema during the cold winter months so this may require extra care to keep your child moisturised. Invest in skin products which do not have perfumed and are not brightly coloured to avoid worsening the skin condition. If you’re giving your child vitamin supplements, look for one that contains omega-3 acids, as they help to maintain skin health.

During winter prioritise keeping your toddler warm but also pay extra care to what’s going on under the layers of clothing so that your child is comfortable and happy through the cold season.

What to do if your toddler hasn't started walking

It may be tempting to compare your child’s growth with toddlers in a similar age group but it’s essential to recognise that children develop uniquely and at their own pace.

While toddlers generally start walking at 14 months, if your child hasn’t started walking you should also look out to see how their other motor skills are developing. Are they beginning to explore by crawling, grabbing ahold of objects to balance themselvesor kneeling? These are all monumental motor skill developments and indications that your child may be getting ready to take their first steps soon. So you may not need to worry.

Also bear in mind that not all babies begin to walk at 14 months. Some start quite later at 16 or 17 months. If your little one has gone past that mark and is still not walking, then you may seek professional help to assess your child’s motor skills.
Make an appointment with your doctor where a medical examination should be conducted, followed by a neurological exam and an assessment of your child’s reflexes, posture, and muscle tone. During this examination, the doctor should also take into account other important developmental issues including language, fine motor, and social skills.

The following steps should be taken during the examination

  • Your baby’s limbs should be carefully examined to check if they are stiff or suffering from any muscle constraints which could be affecting his balance and ability to start taking a few steps
  • An examination with a pediatric neurologist must be booked to rule out any brain development issues
  • A developmental paediatrician will also be able to assess language and motor skills
  • Surgery or physical therapy may be recommended should there be a medical diagnosis of a health related problem

At home you can aid your toddler in his development by carrying him less often and urging him to play in different positions. Try kneeling or crawling over cushions or helping him to stand while you support him. This will contribute and help stabilise his co-ordination, balance and develop his strength and confidence to start taking those first steps.

What to take into consideration when choosing a nanny

Picking a nanny is one of the most important decisions you will make as essentially, the caregiver will stand in for you when you are not available to fully care for your child.

Make the right decision by following a process which will help you find the right person that you can trust with your child and who can fit into your family life.

References

Ask for at least three references from the prospective nanny or agency. Prepare a list of questions which should include the following:

  • How long did you employ her?
  • Why did she leave?
  • What was her compensation level?
  • What are her strengths, and what about her do you most respect?
  • In what areas could she improve?
  • How are her communication skills? (Both with the parents and the children.)
  • Does she have initiative?
  • Is she organized?
  • Does she handle stress well?
  • Is she warm and social?

First aid training

Ask if she has first aid training and how she coped in an emergency situation. Her ability to administer first aid should rank highly on your priorities list, especially if you have a toddler as they are very active and are bound to explore indoors and outdoors. If you have a swimming pool, CPR training will come in handy in the case of an unfortunate incident.

Experience

How many children has she cared for?A prospective nanny should have at least one year of cumulative prior experience as a paid childcare provider. Experience could be as a teacher, daycare provider, camp counselor or babysitter/nanny.

Personality compatibility

Ideally, her personality should fit in with the family and everyone should feel comfortable around her and vice versa. Schedule a trial run to watch how she interacts with your children.

Interview questions

Ask potential candidates specific questions that relate to your family. Find out what their past job duties were and if they are willing to do the tasks you are looking for help with. Talk about your parenting and discipline styles, and find out if the prospective nanny will agree to follow your lead.

Ultimately trust your instinct and allow it to guide you in making the final decision. You know what’s best for your child and your gut will instinctively tell you who the best person to look after your precious child is. https://youtu.be/IRIbnwLGpu0

Watch the video below to help guide you on picking a nanny

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Why sensory play can improve your child's development

With sensory play, you can expose your child to a variety of fun activities which eliminate the formalness of being in a classroom.

Sensory play encourages toddlers to explore what they find in their environment, activating their touch, smell, taste, balance, sight and hearing senses.

The sensory activities allow children to refine their thresholds for different sensory information helping their brain to create stronger connections to process and respond to sensory information.

Learning through sensory play comes easily to toddlers as the skills they will depend on include understanding objects, spaces, people and finding out how to interact with these.

Sensory play places the focus on the child and the sense which they are exploring through playing with clay for example. As they mold the clay, they learn to focus on the clay and shaping it despite any external distractions which may occur in their immediate environment.

The result is that the child connects the item being explored with a pathway in the brain which receives stimuli, accepts and sends a message back that it is safe to engage with the item.

Sensory play literally helps shape what children to believe to be positive and safe in the brain. Ultimately, shaping the choices children make and impacting behaviour.

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Here are 5 reasons why sensory play is beneficial:

  1. Research shows that sensory play builds nerve connections in the brain’s pathways, which lead to the child’s ability to complete more complex learning tasks.
  2. Sensory play supports language development, cognitive growth, fine and gross motor skills, problem solving skills, and social interaction.
  3. This type of play aids in developing and enhancing memory
  4. Sensory play is great for calming an anxious or frustrated child
  5. This helps children learn sensory attributes (hot, cold, sticky, dry)

How to make your own sensory activity

Make your own sensory activity by using the recipe below. Once the rice has been coloured, you can place it in a sensory bin and get your toddler to sift through the colours, feeling the rice and grouping the colours. He can also use the rice to decorate or make his own textured painting.

Recipe for coloured rice:

1 cup dried rice. (I use jasmine rice because I love the smell!)

1 teaspoon food colouring (I have also used diluted paint before with the same outcome.)

Paper towels

Tray or plate (this for drying the rice)

A container with a screw on lid on.

  • Add food colouring to the container and pour in one cup of rice.
  • Screw on the lid and shake, shake, shake until the rice is completely covered.
  • Add a little more food colouring if needed to achieve desired colour.
  • Place the wet rice onto a paper towel and plate.
  • Using a spoon spread the wet rice out evenly to dry out. If it is a sunny day, I place the wet rice out in the sun to air dry.
  • Give the container a wipe and a rinse, and proceed with your next colour!
  • When the rice is dry, gently rub the rice between your fingers to break up any rice that may be stuck together.
  • Coloured rice will last for several years if stored correctly in an air-tight container.

Additional sources: Happyhooligans.ca

Does time out work?

Yvonne Siphuka, who is a mom to three-year-old Nonhle, says time-out does work for her but only when she is stern and serious about it.

“Time out has worked for me with both my daughters. Sometimes it doesn’t work but it really depends on the child and parent. If you are going to give your child a time out you need to be serious and see it through or they won’t take you seriously.”

So does time-out really work?

Advocates for time-out have said that it is beneficial when removing a misbehaving child from an activity. This results in the parent being able to explain and show why the naughty toddler had to be taken to a time-out session and to discuss why what happened was not appropriate and to set out how your child can behave better in future.

Other ways to discipline your child without using time-out

Spend time together

Rather than separating yourself from your toddler, spend time with them, one on one and chat according to their level of understanding of what the problem or issue is. This is also a great way to get your tot to calm down, listen and comprehend why what they did was not okay.

Create a comfort corner

In this corner, have things that bring a sense of calm and peace to your child. Add their favourite toys, teddy bears and things that make them feel at ease. The comfy corner should have a calming effect and that should correspond with your temper. Speak gently and try not to raise your voice so your toddler can know the comfy corner is for raising truces.

Remove a privilege

In this instance, you would negotiate with your toddler and take away a privilege. So you would both make the choice that having a snack before bed is out because of their previous misdemeanour.

Allow your child a chance to make decisions

With time-out, you want to empower your toddler to see the difference between right and wrong, the best way to do that is to give them a choice. Let them make a decision between two or more choices for making up for the wrong that they did.

Redirect your toddler

When your child is out of control and jumps on the couch, instead of shouting and making a scene, try approaching the situation form a positive situation. Tell your child what he can do. Give him a safe and healthy alternative to channel his energy into something positive.

Five must-have products for toddlers

The toddler years are some of the most amusing as your baby begins to crawl, walk and explore the world around him.  During this time where he is active and curious about his surroundings, bag five must have products that you can use while on the road or out in public.

Hand sanitizer
Toddlers are active and love touching and exploring, putting their hands all over the floor and putting things in their mouth. The best way to keep them clean and safe from bacteria is by keeping a hand sanitiser close by so you can give them a quick waterless wash.

Body cream and wipes
For those days thatyou find yourself with a toddler who has a spotty face and dirty hands, a quick visit to the nearest bathroom to wash off the dirt and lotion to moisturise their face will help.

An extra set of clothes
With all the playing and outdoor activities that toddlers engage in, it’s best to always keep a spare set of clean clothes that your toddler can change into.

Snacks for the road
Toddlers enjoy snacking especially when they have nothing to keep them entertained but keep it healthy by stocking up on dried fruit, all bran muffins, fruits, low sugar juice, yoghurt and crackers.

First aid kit
You never really know when unfortunate incidents can happen so it’s best to be prepared and have a first aid kit in your car or in the bathroom. Brief your nanny about what to do if you are not around and ensure that you and your partner both have individual first aid kits in your cars.

These are free ways to keep your tot entertained

By: Bernice Maune

Indulge in free fun and save while at it with our list of free ways to keep your tot entertained. From spending time in your own backyard to baking in the kitchen and visiting museums, spending time with your toddler can be varied and more importantly expense free.
Markets
Food markets usually have play pens and this is the perfect place to keep your tot entertained while you take in the market or enjoy the company of friends. These kiddie areas are free and you can enjoy a day out without spending a cent.

Park dates
Pack a snack basket and go have fun in the park. The utilities come at no cost and your toddler can run and play under your watchful eye.

Swimming in your own pool
Use the opportunity to expose your toddler to some water activities. Let them don a pair of floaters and splash about in the pool.

Gardening
Start them early with green fingersby planting some easy growingherbs and flowers.

Treasure hunts
This is an activity that the whole family can join in and have fun. Pick a treasure, it can be food or notes that lead to a message and hide these all over the house and garden. Set a time and give your children a deadline to find all the hidden treasures.

Camping
Bring all the adventure to your backyard and set up your own tent together. Bring camp supplies, torches and although you may not spend the whole night there, your toddler can freely enjoy the experience of camping.

Museums
Most museums are government owned and entrance is free. Take your tot on a tour of a museum so he can explore and see all the interesting artefacts. This is a great way to get your child familiar with culture and the arts.

Baking
Make an event out of baking and let your toddler join you in the kitchen. Bake simple cookies and add colour and sprinkles to make baking time a creative affair.

Library
Not only are libraries a quiet place where your child can read and enjoy looking at the images in books but they can also use paper and crayons to draw and express themselves artistically. Plus libraries can be accessed at no fee.

Collage making
Pick a theme and use magazines to create a collage based on your theme. This is a great and free way to let your toddler express themselves with pictures. All you need is paper, scissors, magazines and glue. Supervise them to ensure they don’t hurt themselves if you allow them to do the cutting themselves. Otherwise ask them to show you which pictures they want to use and you do the cutting and they can paste.

How to tell your toddler is ready for the potty

Your toddler will begin to indicate that his diaper needs to be changed by pointing at his nappy or by walking around uncomfortably. Whichever way your toddler chooses to express himself, you can look out for several signs to see when it’s time to introduce the potty.

Copying others behaviour
If your child goes to day care she may already have seen other kids using the potty and this may pique her curiosity and prompt her to start copying by pulling at her diaper and squatting.

Waking up with a dry diaper
This is a sign that your child is starting to understand the difference between taking a pee in their diaper and waiting to use a potty.

Follows you to the toilet
Your tot may start following you to the bathroom and watch you pee to see what happens. This is an indicator that he is ready to start potty training.

Stays dry for two hours or more
If your toddler stays dry for longer than usual then it may be time to start them on the potty.

Complains about a wet diaper
Pulling at their diaper and indicating that their diaper is wet or has poo is a sure fire sign that they are ready to begin using a potty.

Mommy moments:

Mokgadi Maloba, mom to five-year old Kgodisho says her son used pamper pants to begin training.

“I used nappy pants and he lead us. He started using it to pee in the toilet. The nappy pants gave him freedom.”

Dikeledi Mfecane, mom to two-year old Lilitha and five-year old Olwethu had two different experiences with her children.

“I couldn’t tell with Olwethu but he took a keen interest because he was already at day care and his peers were starting with potty training so it was a natural process for him to get into it from there. With my daughter, she shows signs like when she has made a poo then she’ll make us aware that there’s a stinky. It means she understands that she needs to change her nappy.”

Tips for taking a plane trip with a 2-year-old

Travelling with small children doesn’t have to be a nightmare anymore. Instead it can be a stress free, smooth experience for the whole family.

Have a chat with the flight attendant before lift off

Speak to an air hostess and find out if there is anything you need to know about ensuring that your child is safe and adheres to flight standards and regulations while travelling. Stewards are also equipped with additional tips to make your travel less complicated. They may recommend tips like playing your child a song before lift-off to calm them.

Tell tall tales

To make the flight interesting and to make it seem like it won’t last too long, tell your toddler some quirky stories that they can understand. Read them a book of short stories to buy you some time and when they ask when the trip will end, this is where you’ll have to tell some tall tales and act like the journey is coming to an end very soon.

Do not over pack

If you are the only parent with your toddler, pack lightly so that you can handle your luggage, your child and all their extras and baggage. This will also make entering and exiting easier for both of you.

Get to the airport early

Get to the airport at least 30 minutes to an hour early so you can check-in, get your boarding pass and prepare your toddler for the trip ahead.

Check in online

This might seem like a simple tip but many people forget to take advantage of an early check in which opens up to three days before your trip. The point is to reduce as much admin as possible when travelling with a young child.

What to pack onboard on the plane

Snacks – Take an assortment of snacks which your toddler can enjoy as often the food on the plane will not have a variety which will interest your toddler. Pack your child’s favourites and add fresh fruit which isn’t readily available on flights.

Hand sanitiser, wipes and diapers – Take a good supply depending on how long the trip will be. Hand sanitisers and wipes are good for wiping down everything, especially in the bathrooms.

Digital entertainment – Stock up on videos, movies and games on your smartphone or tablet for your toddler to watch and be entertained during the flight.

Crayons, paper and colouring books – Have several options so that your toddler has loads to do. Their attention span is quite limited so keeping them busy is the best way to keep them out of trouble.

5 Inexpensive date nights for parents

When was the last time you had a romantic date night with your partner? If you’re like most couples and parents, chances are it’s been a few months since you had some quality alone time due to the demands of parenthood.

Keeping the spark alive and staying connected should continue to be a top priority in your relationship. Babies are a handful and require a lot of our time and energy but your relationship with your partner doesn’t have to suffer because of parenthood. That said, we know it can become tough to keep dating each other through parenthood and scheduling date nights can become a mission.

With our list of innovative date nights it doesn’t have to become complicated, we’ve done all the work so you can enjoy romancing your partner again.

Take a walk or go on a hike
Sometimes simple is better. Rediscover your neighbourhood and just take in your surroundings while catching up. Talk and find out how your significant other’s day was. Hiking is a great way to up your fitness level and to explore new heights together while connecting.

Have a picnic in the park
This is a tried-and-true romantic date idea that won’t cost you an arm and a leg. Pick out your favourite treats and place them in a picnic basket. If you want to be extra romantic, add champagne, seafood, a cheese board and some sweets. Play a game or quiz where you get to know each other some more because this could be a great opportunity to know your partner better.

Create your own photoshoot
All you needis an empty room, a smartphone or camera that has great quality and a tripod or selfie stick. Get dressed up, add your own props or conceptualise a fun idea with a theme, for example you could dress up as your favourite couple from a movie. Have fun, relax, laugh at yourselves and create special memories that will last forever in photos.

Visit a botanical garden
Most towns and cities have botanical gardens that are easily accessible or a drive away. Entrance is usually free and the scenery is worth a visit!

Cook or bake together
This can be a sweet and romantic way to bond over an interesting recipe that neither of you have attempted. Prepare a three course meal  or bake a cake that you’ve wanted to try for awhile. Take pics of all your cculinary efforts and don’t forget to play while at it! Cooking and baking are great stress relievers and dining together could bring that spark back.

How to put the spark back in the bedroom with a toddler around

Pre-parenthood was a mix of hot hook-ups, steamy sex in exciting places and sensual lingerie that had you and your partner lusting after each other.

When baby came, things slowed down and you found yourselves reaching for the bedside lamp instead of each other. What was a fun filled and adventurous sex life has now become dull, predictable and routine.

Yet it doesn’t have to stay that way because having a child doesn’t mean that boredom should settle into the bedroom. You and your partner can put the fire back into your sex lives in a variety of ways even with a toddler around.

Bring back date nights

This is a non-negotiable. Spending time together, just the two of you with no distractions has to happen often. Schedule date night in advance so that you both can get used to having this one night where you can explore activities together and re-connect post baby. Think theatre, night spas, strolls along the beach, jazz picnics or just watching the sunset with a bottle of good wine.

Ban the baby talk

When it’s just the two of you, ban all baby talk. Your child is presumably safe and being well taken care of so focus on talking about what the two of you have been up to. Ask questions about what you have discovered post baby, play games with each other with the aim of learning something new. Parenthood has brought a new dimension to your life, explore how you have both changed.

Dress up for each other

When it’s date night and even on family outings, keep the element of surprise there by dressing in threads that your partner hasn’t seen. Keep things fresh by showing off your figure or trying on new make-up.

Compliment each other

Is your partner shedding the baby weight nicely? Then tell her so. Don’t forget to enjoy each other and it’s the simple things like a compliment which remind you of your attraction to each other.

Baby should sleep in the nursery

There will be times when your toddler can’t fall asleep on their own and they will come to your bedroom for comfort. This should be an exception and not the norm. Your bedroom is your love sanctuary and should be treated as such. Keep toys in your baby’s bedroom and keep your room as romantic as possible.

Keep the lingerie close by

Just because you’ve had a baby, that doesn’t mean t-shirts and pyjamas should replace your sleep wear. Keep the sexy negligees and matching underwear sets on hand to remind your partner how you made your bundle of joy. Racy bedroom outfits should be standard and role playing should take place once in a while.

Oils, candles and perfume

To spruce things up, get scented and flavoured candles to turn the atmosphere in your bedroom into a romantic one. Sensual massage oils are also a great way to get things heated. Offer your partner a massage after work and let things unfold from there. A light, scintillating perfume can also add to the kinky atmosphere, building momentum for a fun and exciting night for the both of you.

Making a family car emergency kit

Parents need to be especially prepared on the road where unforeseen circumstances can take place unexpectedly. Keep your family safe and secure by preparing a car emergency kit which you can use during roadside emergencies.

You should include a copy of your emergency plan in your emergency car kit. This kit should include a map of other possible routes to take to get home or to work. It will be essential to note any potentially disastrous areas such as bridges or dams that could be flooded. The map should contain detours.

For the whole family include blankets, an extra change of clothing for everyone, toiletries, snacks and water. Entertainment can be made up of board games, books and DVDs that the kids can watch on a laptop. Medication should all be stored separately and safely.

Storing your kit

Look for a bag which is easy to carry like a backpack or a medium sized trunk. Inform the whole family exactly where it is located so that they all know how to find it.

Car kit essentials

Anti-freeze/coolant (gallon)

Battery powered crank radio/extra batteries

Blanket

Bright-colored cloth (preferably red)

Camera or cell phone (to take photos of vehicle damage)

Can of motor oil

Compass

Cones, warning triangles and emergency flares (keep in

the trunk)

Empty gas can

Fire extinguisher (5 lb., A-B-C type)

Flashlight with spare batteries

Fuses

Quarters/change for tolls/meters

Jack for tires

Jumper cables

Road atlas, maps

Paper towels

Pocketknife

Rags

Sealant for small leaks in tires

Shovel (folding)

Spare tire

Tire pressure gauge

Tool box with screwdrivers, wrenches and a small hammer (keep this in glove compartment)

Tow rope

Windshield washer fluid

First aid kit

Tip: Don’t include any financial information which could be stolen. Rather keep this information and supporting documents on email or on a hardrive at the office, locked in a safe or locker where you can remember to access it when necessary.

Pre-school options for your tot

Choosing a pre-school for your child is one of the most important decisions that you’ll ever make so it’s essential to explore all options so that you make a worthwhile investment in your child’s education.

Read our guide to available school options which can help you make the best decision for your tot.

Montessori

The Montessori schooling programme focuses on nature, creativity and hands-on learning with guidance from teachers. The learning style prioritises senses, character, practical life skills and academic ability.

Waldorf

This type of education is centred around a rigorous approach to education by integrating arts in all academic disciplines. The aim is to inspire life-long learning and to enable children to fully develop their unique capacities.

Nova Pioneer

These schools focus on developing innovators and leaders. Their approach is on developing a child’s full potential through a rigorous and innovative approach to education. Lessons are centred on creativity, energy and engagement, Children are encouraged to ask questions and solve problems from a tender age.

Public and private

Every suburb in the country has public and private schools which cater for children in the area that they live in. These government and private schools offer Grade RR up to Grade 0. Depending on the school, the approach is varied and includes creative, sports and academic activities to prepare little ones for their academic career.

The best practical clothing items for your toddler

Parents to toddlers know how active they can be, exploring, touching and wanting to find out how things work.

Dressing toddlers can be a mission on its own because it’s essential to have them comfortable but wearing clothing that they can play in at pre-school. We asked three mothers how they manage to get it right.

Yvonne Siphuka, mom to three-year old Nonhle says she finds tights, t-shirts and pumps a great combo for crèche wear.

“Tights and t-shirts are my favourite because it’s easier to buy as they always come in pairs. When they are playing, they feel comfortable and that’s a priority for me, that my daughter has fun and is able to play without any hassles.

“Dresses are for occasions in my house. At times, my daughter wants to feel like a princess and dresses make her feel special but she knows that they are reserved for certain outings and events like birthdays.”

Zimkhita Mfecane has a two-year old toddler whom she enjoys dressing in leggings and dresses.

“I prefer darker colours because I know my daughter loves playing and that means she will likely get dirty.”

Vuyo Dlamini says she prefers shorts and tank tops for her son and daughter because they are simple clothes to wash and maintain.

“I am a regular at the shorts and t-shirt section because I know how durable and uncomplicated these items are. I love the fact that I don’t have to but these same pieces of clothing over and over and that I can buy a mix of colours to keep my kid’s wardrobe fresh and interesting.”

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Share with us what your favourite clothing items are for your toddler?

These are the cool celebrity moms we identify with

Warning! By the time you finish reading this article you could be super broody and gearing up to add a new member to your family.

From super cute play dates, funny videos to intimate moments with their mini-me’s we’ve enjoyed watching these cool celebrity mothers chronicle their motherhood journey. We take a look at why we relate to their relatable yet fascinating motherhood journeys.

Ntando Duma

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The actress and TV presenter welcomed her adorable daughter, Sbahle last year. With her own Instagram page and a following of thousands, Sbahle and Ntando have shared cute moments on video. We identify with Ntando because at 23, she is a young, single mother who manages to work hard, stay focused and career driven while parenting her daughter on her own.

Tshepiso Da Costa

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Since giving birth to her daughter, Assa last year, model Tshepiso has embarked on a fitness journey to get her pre-baby body back. Her routine has consisted of intense training at the gym, a healthy diet and walking with her daughter. We love how confident she is in her own skin and how she celebrates herself by showing off her post baby gym results.

Tumi Morake

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Mom to two sons and a daughter, comedian and TV host Tumi shared her own experience of how motherhood can be challenging and demanding. The presenter got candid as she explained that running her own household, being a wife and working fulltime has taken its toll and she has had to go to therapy to cope, showing that sometimes moms don’t always have it all together and it’s okay to look for help to keep things moving.

“My job is to entertain, make light of things…lately it has taken a real effort to do that. I am back in therapy because I am a weird combination of exhausted, on edge and looking for answers. For the first time this week, I have taken on a more active role with the kids and I felt like I must have been an absent parent all along.

“I kept messing up their schedules this week. Shortly after I took this picture I had to get them all to bed because we had work to do. Afia begged me to sleep with her, Lesedi started crying for a cupcake and Bonsu was upset I got his book request wrong…We are all trying. We are all human,” Tumi wrote on her Instagram page.

DJ Zinhle

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Since becoming a mom to Kairo who turned 3 in July, Zinhle Jiyane has taken her fans on her parenting journey and shared how she manages to successfully co-parent with rapper AKA. We relate to how honest she is about her life, how she strives to maintain her own identity while mothering Kairo and how she stays motivated to be the best mother she can possibly be. On her blog www.momentsbydjzinhle.com, she offers readers an in depth look into her life and how she is able to uplift herself by reading self-help books, journaling and listening to podcasts by Oprah.

Three surprising things your toddler will do

Your tot is growing fast and becoming independent as each day goes by. He can now talk and form sentences and hold a conversation with you. Your toddler can also undress himself, bathe himself and make his bed somewhat.

Here are somemore surprising things toddlers can do for themselves.

Make food for themselves

By the age of 2 or 3, toddlers are usually able to fix a simple meal like cheese and ham sandwiches. Just show them where the ingredients are and they’ll whip up a meal in no time. Of course they should do this under supervision.

Pick out their own clothes

Your child is developing their own personality and they already have a strong sense of what they like and dislike. When it comes to clothes they can recognise what they want to wear and what they don’t. Given an opportunity they will pick out their favourite clothing. Let them make their own clothing choices and gently guide them to picking clothing appropriate for the weather or for outings.

Walk beside the trolley as you shop

Toddlers can follow you around and sometimes they will even hang onto the trolley and want to catch a ride but they can walk next to you and not want to jump in and be pushed around. Next time you visit the supermarket, let your toddler walk beside you and observe as you pick items and shop. Keep him pre-occupied with something edible like a lollipop so that he doesn’t throw a tantrum for an item in the store.

What surprising things can your toddler do on their own?

What information to leave with a babysitter

When leaving your toddler in the care of a babysitter, it’s essential that you thoroughly brief them  on what to do in case of an emergency.

Prepare them with a checklist and contact list which they can use to get ahold of anyone in the case of an unfortunate incident. We’ve provided a list which you can simply add all your personal and important details to, print out and leave with your babysitter.

General information:

  1. Names of all family members and their contact numbers
  2. Names of neighbours, and their children
  3. Your exact address
  4. The exact location of the first aid kit
  5. Contact number of the closest person or relative to call in case of emergency
  6. A list of things, including food items or medication, to which your child is allergic

Specific contact information:

  1. Your cell phone number
  2. Information about where you will be while you are out
  3. The name, address, and phone number of someone else to contact in case of emergency (if you can’t be reached)
  4. Local phone numbers for police, fire, poison control, and emergency services (internet-based phone systems, like Vonage, and cell phone systems do not necessarily work with local 911 services)

Medical information:

  1. A photocopy of your child’s health insurance card
  2. The name, address, and phone numbers for your child’s paediatrician
  3. The name, address, and phone number of a nearby hospital
  4. Information about any over-the-counter or prescription medication your child takes (including dosage)
  5. The name, address, and phone number of the vet, if you have pets

Other Information:

  1. A list of the house rules (what TV programs kids can or can’t watch, what kids can or can’t eat, bed times, anything that is not allowed, etc.)
  2. Homework information, if necessary, in order to help school-age children
  3. A cheat sheet of where important items (first aid kid, flashlights, medications, fire extinguisher, emergency preparedness kit, etc.) are located in the house
  4. What to do in case of fire or other emergency

Pregnancy

Natural remedies for morning sickness

Nothing can dampen the excitement of pregnancy like morning sickness.
The name, however, is very misleading as morning sickness can happen at any time during the day or night. It is most common during the first trimester, but for some women morning sickness lingers throughout pregnancy.

Infancy 0-2

What you need to know about caesareans

A Caesarean section (C/S) is performed when natural birth is impossible or unsafe.
The operation may be performed before labour begins, if there are medical reasons for not going through labour and natural birth, or if the health of the mother or baby may be in danger.

Tweens 7-12

Dealing with temper tantrums

Remember when you went shopping and your child eyed a toy they wanted but you had no intention of buying it?

Teens 13-18

Identifying a bully

Bullying is when one child picks on another child repeatedly. It can be physical, verbal or over the internet and social media.

Funny Videos

Video Blog

Here we have the funniest, cutest and most adorable videos of children doing the most funny things you could ever think of!

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