Kwa-Thema – Refiloe Mgcina, the founder of Hadassah, hosted the It’s Still My Child event at the Kwa-Thema Hall (Sassa building) on October 18.

The event supported women whose children use substances. Mgcina said she saw the need to form her organisation after realising that young people often make unhealthy choices.

As a mother of a child struggling with addiction, she has firsthand experience of the challenges involved.

“I established my organisation in 2017 to help women going through situations like mine. I have a son who uses substances.

“I know the shame and disappointment that come with that. People look at you differently, as if you are a failure. Yet, you are not,” she said.

“Parents with children who use substances face a lot of stereotypes and criticism. Over the years, our focus has been on users, not the parents. We often forget the emotional and psychological needs of parents.”

Mgcina explained that people are quick to judge rather than offer support when she asks for help. The event created awareness, provided parental support and offered intervention programmes for families affected by substance abuse.

The initiative received support from the departments of Social Development and Health, Child Welfare, Checkmate (NPO) and spiritual leaders.

“Healing must happen holistically. I am hoping for healing. I want parents to heal for their children,” she added.

Professionals at the event spoke on intervention programmes and counselling, and allowed parents to seek help and ask questions.

Part of Mgcina’s mission is to encourage parents to stop blaming themselves for their children’s choices. She said her strength comes from prayer, self-empowerment and refusing to walk alone.

“Honestly, it is by the grace of God. That is why I want other women to be empowered. We must uplift one another. Counselling helps, but is not always available. That is why we rely on community support and faith,” Mgcina said.

Her message to other parents in similar situations is clear: “Do not give up on your child. Seek help. Talk to professionals. Connect with other parents who understand. Healing is possible.”

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