Baby Bump Blues: Oh my! A 14-year-age gap

BRINGING a new soul into the world is one of the most precious things for a woman but the thought of myself being pregnant again has never truly crossed my mind, especially since I have a son who is turning 14 this year.

With a number of celebrities hitting parenthood in their late thirties and forties, it shows more than ever that age is just a number. I am not that old by the way, but having a child that is way taller than you makes you feel that way :)

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The signs started showing at the end of last year as I became very tired but I thought it was just normal fatigue, my body has been working the whole year and needs to rest.

Then I lost my sense of taste and had weird cravings, my first thought was, I have contracted Covid-19. To assure myself and trying to ignore the signs, I read an article on one of the news sites, which stated that Covid-19 can make women miss their period. But it was definitely not the case for me.

My body and my taste buds forced me to quit the things I loved most, my tea and my favourite beverage, I just could not stomach it. Now I have to accompany my colleague and friend Khethu to make tea at the office while I pour myself a glass of water, it pains me sometimes. I miss my tea.

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As time went by it was clear that I was pregnant but I was in denial.

On February, 2 I decided to finally buy that pregnancy test. After work, I went straight to the bathroom, within a few seconds, there were the two lines, so I am really pregnant.

The next day I visited a doctor for an ultrasound who started telling me about the heartbeat and showed me the baby’s head, wow there is a person growing inside me. After so long, it felt surreal and exciting at the same time.

I was smitten! He told me I was 18 weeks pregnant. I have embraced this journey and I am looking forward to it.

The bump is now showing and the movement in my stomach excites me, I can not wait to meet my little person and now for the big question, should I or should I not find out the baby’s gender.

Th father is rooting for a girl and has even named her, my son wants a baby brother, time will tell.

The first pregnancy

I had my son in 2008, I fell pregnant with him during my last year at college, a few months before my 21st birthday. It was scary, my mother was furious but with the support and commitment from his father, he actually made my journey easy.

When he was born, it was the greatest feeling in the world and he is still the apple of our eye (and his grandmother’s, believe it or not). We share a very special bond, for the first three years, we were inseparable as I was a stay at home mom, but to tell the truth, he is still a mommy’s boy, even though he will never admit it.

When I look at him and look back, I realise that he is one of the things I got right in my life, a respectful (although a teenager with moods) young man who gives his best in everything he does.

Now being mature and wiser, (hopefully) I am more confident and look forward to being a mother for the second time.

In our next feature, Njabulo (longman) Gumede will share how he feels about having a sibling.

Caxton Local Media Covid-19 reporting