Becoming a Ndebele man at initiation school

An African rite of passage is a cultural treasure that many South Africans fight to retain within their suburban space in our modern society.

Ndebele people are part of an Nguni nation that still prides itself on its culture and still follows its customs – this is evident in the continuous practice of initiation schools within various townships.

Sending a child away to these initiation schools, however, can be daunting for many parents who do not want to face the possibility of a fatal outcome for their son as a result of the rite.

Despite the debate surrounding initiation schools, Ndebele people deem it a fundamental responsibility for young men to be part of the rite called iNgoma.

On July 5 the Shili family celebrated the safe return of their son who underwent the training that is authentically a traditional passage for Ndebele boys in their journey to entering the world of manhood.

Mzwakhe Meshack Shili’s aunt, Julia Hluphi Shili, said Meshack left for iNgoma on April 24 to be trained about adulthood.

“Now that he is back he will have to respect himself and observe the rules of our culture. He needs to present himself positively to the community and be humble in the society at large, not only to his family,” said aunt Julia.

She said they preserve their culture within urban areas because they don’t want younger generations to follow the modernised practices of other cultures.

“Our boy child developed various survival skills there.

“I am impressed that Meshack agreed wholeheartedly to go to the school.

“I am expecting a lot from him. He must lead the family in a proper and respectful manner,” Aunt Julia explained.

“I am not expecting any disappointment from him, hence the family and I gave him two bakkies as a homecoming present, so we expect him to use the bakkies to grow his business and financially assist his family.”

She said Mzwakhe, as a trained man, is now expected to have his own family to lead and act responsibly throughout adulthood.

“We hope these two vehicles are a valuable investment in his business.”

Mzwakhe’s mother said she is very happy and now sees herself as a dignified mother.

“He will lead the family. He is now a grown up mentally and culturally. My hope is vested in him.

“Boy, I wish you good luck in your stage of manhood,” Mzwakhe’s mother said.

As a new man from the initiation school the initiates have to bear a new name each, which is symbolic of a new beginning in their journey of manhood.

When he was asked about his new name the new man (formerly known as Mzwakhe) said from now on he will be known as S’ngalela.

“I’m very happy. Ecstatic. I have graduated into manhood.

I’m also overwhelmed with the presents. It was unexpected and I don’t know how to thank my family.”

He said he is looking forward using the vehicles to grow his business.

“Now I need to hustle more. And also help to revive the Ndebele culture ekasi and be a good example to young boys who are still growing up.”