Overcoming the stigma of teenage pregnancy

Nonhlanhla Mthembu’s life took an unexpected turn when she fell pregnant at the age of 15.

Now 45, she is a proud grandmother and a beacon of hope to young girls facing similar challenges.

Born in Witbank, Mpumalanga, Nonhlanhla was raised in Limpopo by her paternal grandmother after her mother, who was also a victim of teenage pregnancy, couldn’t take care of her.

“My parents had me when they were both teenagers. I was sent to Limpopo because both my mom and I were dependent on my maternal grandmother’s pension. However, growing up in Limpopo was great. We were nine grandchildren, and we were well taken care of.”

“When I was nine years old, my dad moved to Johannesburg for work, and I didn’t have both my parents with me when growing up. It never affected them; however, when I look back now, I wish they were both there,” she reflects.

At school, Nonhlanhla was an exemplary student, excelling academically, part of the debating team and showcased strong leadership qualities. She had a reputation to uphold, not only as a top student but also as the granddaughter of a prominent principal in the area.

When she fell pregnant at 15 she was shamed by her community, friends, and schoolmates and she struggled to come to terms with her new reality. The experience took a toll on her self-esteem, leaving her feeling isolated and alone.

“I was devastated and I had to drop out of school,” Nonhlanhla recalls. “I tried to commit suicide and even attempted to terminate the pregnancy. I felt like my world had come crashing down. I had so much potential in life “

However, Nonhlanhla refused to let her circumstances define her. Instead, she channeled her energy into creating a better life for herself and her child.

Today, she is the founder of an organisation called Women in Progress, dedicated to educating and supporting young girls who have fallen pregnant.

Through her organisation, Nonhlanhla works tirelessly to create awareness about the challenges faced by teenage mothers. She visits schools, sharing her story and offering guidance and support to those who need it most.

Nonhlanhla’s message is one of hope and resilience. “I want young girls to know that falling pregnant does not define their worth or potential,” she says. “With the right support and mindset, they can overcome any obstacle and achieve their dreams.”

“I also teach young parents about taking responsibility and accountability when faced with teenage pregnancy. When I fell pregnant my grandmother made sure that I show up and mother my son. That alone created a strong bond between my son and I.“

As Nonhlanhla’s story inspires a new generation of young women, it also highlights the need for greater awareness and support for teenage mothers.

By sharing her experiences and advocating for change, Nonhlanhla is helping to break down the stigma surrounding teenage pregnancy and empowering young girls to take control of their lives.

“This year we are also looking for 100 teenage fathers to speak up about their journey. This is because society will always shame the girl but forget about the boy. The presence of a father is very important.”

If you or someone you know is facing a similar challenge, Nonhlanhla’s organisation is here to help; join the conversation on 060 915 8119.