Six things that prove you can’t be in a relationship

YOU’RE NOT HAPPY WITH YOURSELF

Self-esteem is very important in any relationship. You simply cannot be with someone hoping their confidence will rub off on you. Partners with low self-esteem seem to have an unrealistic view of their relationship which may lead to some deep issues in communication and perception.

BACKGROUND

We all learn about love from somewhere. Our first encounters of love are our immediate circle, mother, father, siblings. Then we learn to share our emotions. Our subconscious accepts or rejects – what we see – how two people who seem in love treat each other. From there we build our own rules on how we express love and be loved.

Your background, believe or not, could be the problem. It may the reason your love stories have no happily ever after.

Sure, you’ve learned how to define and associate love most of your life and you think you’re just the perfect lover. What you think you know may be the reason you’re not winning.

People love differently. When going into a relationship its advisable learn to take in new ways of loving, especially learning how your partner wants to be loved. This teaches and grows your already great love language.

DIFFERENCES

As much as you thought you were in love, reality sets in after the honeymoon phase and before you know it the person you thought was the answer to your life’s sadness turns out to be the cause of most of your stress.

Some relationships work and some fail. Although it seems like the end of the world, often than not the two people want different things. This often means you are just too different with different questions and answers to life.

YOUR APPROACH

The approach to everything in the relationship matters. Knowing that some emotional intelligence is required for you to stay in the relationship is necessary. Understanding the requirements of a romantic and passionate relationship is that one partner has to be the masculine energy and the other the feminine energy.

According to relationship coach Valerie Greene, masculine and feminine energy isn’t about gender or sexual orientation. Both men and women have both masculine and feminine energies. You can choose to be in your masculine or feminine energy as you go through your day, but to create passion and attraction in a romantic relationship, one partner chooses to be in the masculine and the other partner chooses to be in their feminine, and then you have passion.

YOU CAN’T COMMUNICATE

Relationships are full of emotions that need to be effectively communicated to your partner. Knowing how to put those emotions into clear words and effective actions allows your relationship to consciously attend to every challenge logically.

WON’T COMMIT

Failure to commit often has many reasons. From not wanting to share, being afraid of commitment, not letting old relationship scars heal, focusing on a career instead of the relationship. There remain various reasons, however, they all have the same result. They all mean one will not commit. When in doubt, don’t. Our instincts often know what we need.

There can be reasons but those reasons clearly indicate that someone is really not ready to be in a relationship.

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