Bicultural wedding: ‘Yes, I do’
Lungelo Ntshingila of Sibongile in Dundee exchanged traditional vows with her husband Maxime Gobille of France, at the Sibongile family home. Mr Gobille led Lungelo to the altar at the Oval sports grounds in December last year. Guests who were present said the Ntshingila family indeed made history with this union. Afterwards the reception was held at Oval sports ground.
As society relaxes its ideas of what is and what is not culturally acceptable, more and more marriages are occurring between people of diverse backgrounds.
When planning a bicultural wedding, it is important to remember that you can’t please all of the people at all times. In fact, there are times when you can’t please anyone at all.
If you find yourself planning a wedding for a bride who comes from a very different background than that of the groom, the most important thing to remember is that it is for the two of them, and to please no one else. Compromise and diplomacy can go a long way, but if you hit a wall, sacrifices will ultimately have to be made.
If you are the next to have such a wedding, please ask the Ntshingila family of Sibongile for advice.
On December 22 last year their second daugther, Lungelo Ntshingila, got married to Maxime Gobille of France.
The event took place at the Oval sports grounds, and the wedding was graced with the presence of several businessmen.
According to Lizy Ntshingila, the mother of the bride, the Gobille’s family fully participated in the wedding, adhering to the culture of paying lobola of 11 cows, as the bride does not have any children.
Mrs Ntshingila said the dream of the late President of South Africa, Nelson Mandela, of one rainbow nation is going a long way towards being fulfilled.
