Making new friends can be a daunting challenge, especially for children.
If you suspect your child is struggling to make friends, there are ways you as a parent can help.
1. Talk about it
Talk to your child about the qualities to look out for in a friend, such as honesty, friendliness and a willingness to help. Once you have a list of good qualities, discuss how your child can look out for them in a person.
2. Organise play dates
This might sound unusual, but as a parent you will know other parents. By arranging playdates, you can assist your child in learning how to interact with other children his or her age.
3. Encourage your child to join clubs or sports groups
If your child is a bit shy, encourage them to join a club like the scouts or cubs. This will help them to not only meet new children, but teach them to become more independent and socialise with others who share similar interests. Sports is also a good way for children to be part of a team. Whether you child joins their school’s chess or hockey team, be supportive and encourage them to practice the sport in their free time with team mates.
4. Offer alternative options to popularity
Everyone wants to be part of the “in crowd” but this does always happen and it leaves children feeling rejected. Teach your children that being popular is not always important, as a small group of friends often last longer.
5. Watch out for bullying
Bullying can break a child’s spirit down. If your child is reserved and seems anxious to make friends, determine if they are being bullied at school or not and figure a way to resolve it.
