Madam – I have come across so many people who has been dishonoured by their ex-spouses.
It is actually scary how people can talk bad of their ex-spouses in front of their children. Why is it necessary to create such a big emptiness in the childrens’ lives just because you have unresolved issues?
Why keep your children away from school activities that are necessary for them to be formed and transformed? Why do you treat your children in such a bad manner that they don’t want to visit when it is the turn for them to visit you?
I really don’t understand why are this is such a bad thing to do and to try to accomplish. Do you really sit and think what emptiness you are actually creating in their lives? Bad-mouthing your ex-spouse in front of the children is a big No, No!
I have lived for the past 7 years without my children by my side. I have children but they are actually total strangers for I don’t know how they have been brought up by my ex-spouse. And then I will sit and think what have he said to those children to cause the strange behaviour.
I decided to place distance between myself and the children which is actually so wrong, but I have been wronged so many times that I had to sort out myself so that I can prove myself to my children that I am not the person the ex-spouse created them to see in their mind.
I wish I could reach all young children who comes out of broken homes and just tell them that they must keep an open mind about their father and mother. If you really don’t know who you can turn to, talk to somebody you really can trust.
All children need to speak to somebody they can trust when there is confusion regarding their parents behaviour and what is being said of each other. I am a mom and it is very heartbreaking of how I was being placed in the distance because of unresolved issues. I have lost so much of my two boys, and no time on earth will be enough to catch up on what has been lost.
For all that it is worth, my sons, I really love you and there was never a time where I didn’t think about you or of you. Even though my heart was breaking and fell apart many times, I still stood up with the grace of God and fought back against satan who wanted to destroy me.
My message to all parents out there: Please don’t go and create bad pictures of and about your ex-spouse because of your unresolved issues. Deal with it and keep the defenseless children out of it for you have nothing to gain but heartache!
Marina Smal
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