Support for male sexual abuse victims

The idea of facing the outside world after falling victim to a sexual offence is a very daunting task.

Victims often feel alone, become withdrawn, and then isolate themselves from contact with others.

But they are not alone, and there is a support group for men to share their stories and help each other heal.

Headed by Martin Pelders, who started MatrixMen – a support group for male victims of rape based in Boskruin – the group has now also opened its doors to female victims with the help of trauma counsellor Ann Biccard.

“Thus far in South Africa, people have not spoken about the fact that men could possibly have been sexually abused,” said Pelders.

These men then grow up feeling very lonely, very different, are often suicidal, and suffer from various addictions, post-traumatic stress disorders, and low self-esteem. They can also develop sexual identity problems.

“I am, myself, a survivor of sexual abuse and I know what men go through,” continued Pelders. “It’s not pleasant.”

Meetings will be held at Crescent Clinic on the last Tuesday of every month for men who would like to join.

Details: Ann Biccard 061 027 1490 or Martin Pelders 078 457 4911.