When grieving becomes complicated

We have discussed the normal process of grieving before.

It was stressed that one should not be overly concerned immediately when experiencing intense emotional reactions or witnessing someone displaying them shortly after the death of a loved one – it is normal and should be allowed and encouraged.

Importantly however, is that eventually it is expected that you would regain a state of productivity and recover your emotional, physical and spiritual well-being. However, owing to misguided ideas around the grieving process, inadequate support networks or previous trauma one could encounter complications with grieving.

This week I would like to give some guidance with regard to when you need to consider professional help when dealing with the death of someone close to you.

In terms of mental health, one should discuss the following warning signs with a registered counsellor, psychologist or social worker: prolonged major depression, complete lack of interest in the outside world, a dramatic reduction in self-worth and intense feelings of guild and self-blame. Discuss thoughts and actions to harm yourself with someone you trust immediately.

Alcohol and drug abuse, being overly aggressive and abusive behaviour towards others also are indications that you are experiencing complications with getting to terms with losing your loved one.

If you recognise any of these symptoms in yourself or in a family member, I urge you to consider the assistance of a professional, registered person who could offer the necessary treatment and therapy.

Without professional help you might not be able to regain your previous level of functioning. This could compromise your overall well-being even more, resulting in more problems in your personal and professional life.

Once again I would like to invite you to contact me at sandriappelgryn@gmail.com if you are mourning the loss of someone dear to you and if you are interested in becoming part of a support group.