As we mark National Children’s Day on 4 November, it is timely to remember that the education and training which our children first receive at home, constitutes the strongest foundation for their future development.
The positive values that are to guide children throughout their lives are formed during the early years of their lives under the shadow of their families. The degree to which children form healthy relationship with others is also determined during that important period. It is in the family that children learn to love, to be tolerant and to act with justice. It is in the family that children are prepared to confront the challenges of life.
According to the Bahá’í Writings: “it is in early childhood that a firm foundation must be laid. While the branch is green and tender it can easily be made straight”, as “it is extremely difficult to teach the individual and refine his character once puberty is passed”. Hence, the training, which children receive at young ages is much more effective and sustainable.
Some parents seem to think that the school or community around us will give direction to our children so long as we provide for their material needs. The upbringing of our children, I feel, is our responsibility and privilege as parents and it is important to pay constant attention to this very important task.
A caring and supportive environment at home is necessary for the full and harmonious development of the personality of our children. The conditions and the atmosphere we create in our homes must be conducive to the material and spiritual welfare and advancement of our children.
Children should not be left to drift unguided in a world so laden with moral dangers. Their spiritual and moral education is vital for the victory of their spiritual nature over their lower nature.
According to the Bahá’í Writings: “… from the very beginning, the children must receive divine education and must continually be reminded to remember their God. Let the love of God pervade their inmost being, commingled with their mother’s milk” and “Schools must first train the children in the principles of religion, … but this in such a measure that it may not injure the children by resulting in ignorant fanaticism and bigotry”.
Combining science and religion, belief and reason will help free our children from religious fanaticism and superstitions. Placing emphasis on learning to think, rather than following adults out of fear, to reflect and reason, rather than to imitate, will motivate them to apply spiritual laws with understanding and conviction.
It is important to teach our children to consider all as members of one human family, and to be just towards all – from whatever nationality, race, religion, or ethnic group they may be. This will enable them to be instruments for building a united and peaceful world.
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