POLOKWANE – The term narcissist has become a buzzword, frequently used but often misunderstood.

While it is easy to accuse someone of narcissism during disagreements, living with a narcissistic person is an entirely different experience.

According to the Oxford English Dictionary, narcissism describes an excessively self-admiring individual.

The Mayo Clinic defines narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) as a mental health condition where someone has an inflated sense of self-importance, craves excessive attention and admiration, and lacks empathy.

Despite their outward confidence, individuals with NPD are often insecure and struggle with criticism.

Signs of narcissism include:

• Insisting on the best of everything, such as the most luxurious car or house.
• Exhibiting arrogance, bragging excessively, and coming across as vain.
• Expecting special privileges and treatment.
• Believing they are superior and only associating with people they deem equally special.
• Demanding favors and unquestioning compliance from others while ignoring others’ needs and feelings.
• Being critical of those they consider unimportant and exploiting others to achieve their goals.

NPD can severely impact personal and professional relationships, especially since individuals with NPD often lack empathy.

This can make marriage or close partnerships with them particularly challenging.

Divorcelaws.co.za suggests several strategies for coping with a narcissistic partner:

• Boundaries: Clearly set and communicate limits on acceptable behavior, speech, and treatment. Be prepared to enforce these boundaries.
• Support: Seek assistance from family, friends, or a therapist for coping strategies. A professional can help develop mechanisms to manage the difficulties of living with a narcissist.
• Self-care: Prioritize your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.
• Therapy: Consider couple’s therapy to address challenges in the relationship. A therapist can provide strategies to improve communication and help you cope with your partner’s behavior.
• Mediation: If conflicts become unmanageable, consult a mediator or legal professional for guidance.