Secret Santa: The festive tradition inspired by a real-life philanthropist
What is Secret Santa? Discover the history behind the tradition and how to play it at home, school or work.
POLOKWANE – ‘Secret Santa’ is a long-standing festive tradition enjoyed by families, friends, colleagues and communities who celebrate Christmas.
The idea is simple: each person buys one gift for someone else in the group, but the gift-giver’s identity must stay secret until the exchange.
Over the years, this fun guessing game has become a December staple at workplaces, classrooms, church groups and holiday gatherings.
It adds an element of surprise to gift-giving, helps groups stick to a budget, and ensures everyone receives something without the pressure of buying multiple presents.
Where Secret Santa comes from
According to BCC, the modern Secret Santa concept was inspired by American philanthropist Larry Dean Stewart, who anonymously gave money to struggling families in Kansas City during the 1970s.
In 1979 he began secretly donating cash to people in need around Christmas time, earning the nickname “Kansas City’s Secret Santa.”
His kindness inspired others to give anonymously, and over time the idea evolved into the popular gift-exchange tradition we know today.
How to play Secret Santa
Whether you’re hosting one at home, work or school, here is the simplest way to organise it:
1. Decide on a budget and exchange date
This ensures fairness and prevents overspending. Common budgets range from R50 to R200.
2. Collect wishlists
Participants list a few gift ideas, hobbies or preferences. This helps the Secret Santa choose something thoughtful, especially when not everyone knows each other well.
3. Draw names
Write each participant’s name on paper and place them in a hat or bowl.
Everyone draws one name and must buy a gift for that person only.
(You can also use online generators for larger groups.)
4. Purchase the gift
Shop for something thoughtful within the agreed budget.
The key is secrecy, don’t reveal who you’re buying for.
5. Exchange gifts
On the chosen day, everyone brings their wrapped gifts to the party or meeting place. Gifts are usually placed under a Christmas tree or on a central table.
6. Open and guess
Each person opens their gift and tries to guess who their Secret Santa is.
Once everyone has guessed, the identities are revealed, or kept secret if the group prefers.
