Navigating the pain of Father’s Day for those without dads

As Father’s Day approaches, and dads are showered with love and gifts from their loved ones, those who spend the day fatherless are sadly often overlooked.

While it is never a child’s choice to grow up without a dad, factors like death, divorce or abandonment can make a child feel lonely.

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Here are 6 ways to help navigate the pain of Father’s Day with your children:
1. Focus on creating new memories in familiar places: While locations hold sentimental value, visiting a place that holds cherished memories can be a method of healing rather than pain. Memories are powerful, and making new ones is just as important as honouring the past.

2. Remember to consider your child’s feelings: In the case of bitter divorces, single parents sometimes engage in ‘bad-mouthing’ the other in front of their children. While venting can be beneficial, it is important for parents to separate their emotions from the situation. Even if you have moved on after the passing of your spouse, be mindful that your child is still processing the loss of their father, even after years have passed.

3. Plan a meaningful outing: Similar to creating new memories in familiar places, parents can alter their usual Sunday routine to ensure the day is not emotionally taxing for their little ones.

4. Listen to your child: A listening ear is always welcome. Allow your child to express their feelings without judgement or fear of hurting your feelings as the adult. Venting can lead to healing, especially if a safe space is provided for the child.

5. Talk about their dad: Even if the relationship has turned sour, there are memories to be shared with your children to reassure them that they were made from love. If their dad has passed away, share videos and stories of how wonderful he was and how much he loved them.

6. Pay tribute to the strong men in your child’s life: Your children may have an uncle, grandfather or stepfather who has been a father figure to them. We need to gently understand that this will never erase their dad. However, we can honour the men who are present in our children’s lives.

Source: https://www.imom.com/how-to-care-for-fatherless-children-on-fathers-day/

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