Kwa-Thema – Refiloe Mgcina, the founder of Hadassah, is inviting the community of Kwatsaduza to her It’s Still My Child event, to be held on October 18.

The event will take place at the Kwa-Thema Hall (SASSA Building) from 11:00 in support of women who have children who use substances.

She said she saw a need to form her organisation after realising that young people do not always make sound or healthy choices. As a woman with a child who is an addict, she has first-hand experience of what it feels like to go through that.

“I established my organisation in 2017 and just wanted to help women who were going through a similar situation as mine. I have a son who is taking substances.

“I know the shame and disappointment that come with that. People look at you differently, as if you are a failure. Yet you are not,” she said.

“Parents who have children who use substances face a lot of stereotypes and criticism. Over the years, our focus has been on users and not the parents. We forget about the emotional and psychological needs of the parents.”

Mgcina explained that, as a woman with a child who struggles with substance use, people are quick to judge rather than offer support when she asks for help.

Through her upcoming event, she aims to create awareness, offer parental support, and provide intervention programmes for families dealing with substance abuse.

The event will receive support from the Department of Social Development, the Department of Health, Child Welfare, and spiritual leaders.

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“Healing has to happen holistically. I am hoping for healing. I want parents to heal for their children. The event will invite professionals who will present on intervention programmes and counselling. Parents will have the opportunity to seek help and pose questions,” she added.

Part of Mgcina’s aim is to encourage parents to stop blaming themselves for their children’s choices. She said that her coping mechanisms include being grounded in prayer and advocacy for others.

“Honestly, it is by the grace of God. I don’t know how I keep going. My strength comes from prayer, self-empowerment, and refusing to walk alone. That is why I want other women to be empowered. We must uplift one another,” said Mgcina.

“Counselling helps, but it is not always available. That is why we also rely on community support and faith.”
Her message to other parents in similar situations is clear: “Do not give up on your child. Seek help. Talk to professionals. Connect with other parents who understand. Healing is possible.”

For enquiries, contact Mgcina on 075 183 3230.