Sometimes we forget… we forget how exceptionally blessed we are with the people in our lives. Saturday marked hubby and my eleventh year as a married couple. My special husband. Wow – we have had so many ups and downs in 11 years, but not one day goes by that I question the fact that we were born for each other. We had an amazingly special weekend celebrating our anniversary.
After we had our boy we find it difficult to schedule time together, and if we do, we often land up talking about our little man, and then a little more about the little man. This weekend we were children ourselves again, loving each other’s company and bantering and flirting as if we had just met.
We were the only ones at the guesthouse we stayed at – and loved every minute of it just being us. No kiddy talk, no finance talk, just enjoying each other’s company and having lots of fun!
This is exactly why date night is so important! Not always practical, but just one night a week to reconnect. We normally mark Wednesdays to be together. We don’t have to go out, we just turn the TV off and spend some time talking.
We’ve missed it lots over the last few weeks, with the hectic new year rolling in. But it is important to touch base. We really have been dealt with many obstacles throughout our marriage, most of them external – and time has taught us what is really important to make us work. We have also learn that that is exactly what those issues are, external!
As soon as we started treating them as such, we climbed over a certain amount of obstacles easily. Some things, though, happen in our lives that we have no control over, and we only know how we are going to handle it when that thing happens, and often our spouse doesn’t feel the same way we do.
This weekend we were talking about how far we have both come, how much we have grown individually and as a couple – we know there will still be many little obstacles on the way, and with every relationship, the work never stops (We did manage to get some serious chatter in between jumping from the Jacuzzi into the pool and raiding the mini-bar).
We met at a foam party 13 years ago. He always talked about seeing me somewhere but always being too shy to make the first move. I figured as much and still put my favourite hat on his head, hoping that he would try to find me to return it.
Well, it so happened that he lost the hat in about 5 seconds flat – but I did have to ask him where it was, and that’s how we got to talking. After a wonderful evening of dancing and getting to know one another, I went home shoeless and hatless! Luckily when he eventually plucked up enough courage to ask me out on our first date, we went back to the venue and the hat and shoes where there. We have always had fun together and after all these years we still do.
It is really amazing to be married to someone who has a sense of humour. There really is never a dull moment and the house lights up when hubby gets home. He has an amazing presence about him. My favourite thing about my other half is his laugh. He throws his head back and it comes through his eyes, and he does everything full throttle – well, we both do! Maybe that is exactly why our son does too!
I love how he loves me. After all these years he is still kind, thoughtful, polite and always has a compliment ready. He still lifts me up and carries me, he still makes me feel like the most important person in the world, and he still makes my heart skip a few beats when I see him. I love how I feel when I am with him.
Sometimes we forget… we forget how truly blessed we are… thank you for the reminder my sweet love – thank you for an amazing weekend, and an incredible 11 years! I’m looking forward to the rest of our lives and the next adventure that meets us!
