Editor
It is fascinating how we are interested in what the next person is thinking.
As a conversation starter, I sometimes ask, “what’s on your mind right now?”
Very seldom do I get a sincere answer.
Ever found yourself in a position where someone would say “look me in the eye and tell me…”
As they try to get a sneak peak at your “soul,” trying to find indications of deceit.
Often not knowing what to look for.
I find myself smiling when one says such.
Mainly because in about 10 percent of the time, eye contact in its excessive allows for dishonesty to be visible.
It is only human that we are curious about what other people think.
In fact, women have the inborn ability to tell when a man is lying simply by his awkward body language.
Guys straighten up – although it may not be just posture that gives it away.
Tone of one’s voice and different micro expressions (based on research made by Dr Paul Ekman) as well as other factors put together in combinations are a subconscious reminder that fibbing isn’t a natural behaviour.
When you lie, your brain does two things: firstly it thinks of the truth and, secondly fabricating the “untruth” as it’s known to the brain.
When that takes place your body gets signals from your brain to show the give-aways.
So no matter how hard you try, you will always subconsciously show that you are lying.
Now that you know the anatomy of a lie, what is the best way to make sure you are not caught in the act when bluffing?
It may come across as a surprise, but it is to tell the utter truth.
Cliché?
Over-rated?
I know, but it is a lot easier than googling ways on how to hide, tales of dishonesty and spending collective hours in front of the mirror exploring ways to improve our disgraceful habit.
When I asked a friend of mine, what is the first thing that came to mind when I said the word “lie.”
With that question, my friend recalled every time he was misled.
Fitting, since the mind is always recreating scenarios of past mistakes to make sure you don’t get caught again.
We all do not want to be lied to and that should manifest itself by what we do.
Do we ask people to lie for us and expect that they don’t lie to us?
Are we degenerate liars and expect honest family and friends?
I could go on but to sum the above mentioned up; we should chase after guilt-free consciences, which comes from honest and sincere lifestyles.
Samkelo Ngema