Movember dialogue shines light on struggles faced by men
To emphasise the importance of men’s mental health, Simunye Library hosted a Men in Dialogue session in celebration of Movember Month.
Simunye Library hosted a Men in Dialogue session as part of its Movember Month activities to highlight challenges affecting men.
Clement Daniels, Rand West City Libraries manager, described the day as meaningful and encouraged men to grow a moustache during Movember to raise awareness and speak openly about the issues they face.
“It takes a small gesture like not shaving to remind us of the challenges men go through,” Clement said.
Master of ceremonies and librarian Benny Sithole added that men are created in the image of God and should support one another as brothers.
During the dialogue, several men shared how they survived difficult experiences that led to near-suicidal thoughts and alcohol abuse.
“I went through hell and tried to commit suicide three times. I was also admitted to a mental facility twice. My manager at Rand West Public Safety, Chita Mashige, and my friend Mutsi Phala Nobela helped me through the journey when I joined Proud Fathers,” said Sabelo Duma.
Mpho Tatu shared that he was married and is now divorced.
“Sex- and money-related issues add a lot of pressure to marriages. I prayed and asked God not to use masculinity as a weapon. The best option was to walk away. I went through depression before choosing to ask for help. It’s important not to keep these feelings to yourself and to see a psychologist or social worker.”
“After eight years, I realised I was a victim of cheating. As men, we are dying inside, so we must break the stigma that men don’t cry. I learned it the hard way,” said Titus Seojane from Gauteng Archives.
Krugersdorp Correctional Services officer Andile Madlongwana added that life in prison is extremely difficult.
“It’s heartbreaking to be called ‘vader’ or father by someone older than you from the community who ends up in prison. Men cry inside, and in prison, many become victims of rape,” he said.
He emphasised that men face serious challenges both inside and outside prison.
“That is why men should apply the same support methods used in prison gangs – standing together. If we support one another in the same way outside, we can make a difference,” he concluded.
