• Anonymous (angry woman) writes:

In response to the article in the News dated February 4 Stalker alert and online dated January 25, 2022 with headline Young woman ‘stalked’ by stranger warns others the following.

Women and girls have known about all that advice and have been using it since before we turned 13. Women have to take 100% of the precautions; however, if the worst happens, it’s still our fault!

There is a solution to the issue:

Stop teaching your daughters that if a boy hits you or is mean to you it’s because he likes you. Girls then learn that abusive behaviour is okay because it’s ‘love’.

And boys hearing this lie learn that is okay to be abusive because the girl will accept it.

Stop using the saying ‘boys will be boys’ – it teaches boys that they can get away with certain behaviour only because they are male. (See ‘male privilege’.)

Everyone’s worried their daughters will become victims of violence but no one worries that their son will be the one doing it.

To parents with boys:

• Educate them.

• Make them understand that mistreatment of girls/ women is as terrible as cannibalism. (We don’t do cannibalism anymore!)

• Have them understand that not calling out other boys/ men on their bad treatment of women makes them just as bad as the ones doing the deed. (Silence means acceptance.)

• Understand that girls/ women don’t owe males a thing. (Not a smile, acknowledgement, nothing. We owe no one a thing for existing.)

Start fixing the problem at the core. Education and understanding, along with lack of tolerance for the unacceptable is the key.