9 ways of dealing with new love, written by a single woman

If there is one naughty person who knows no time, race, or any sort of limit for that matter, it has to be Cupid. When love strikes, you find yourself thinking of nothing but that one person, you want to talk to them all the time, you want to see them, and your life just revolves around them. But just how does one deal with such a bulk of feelings? Find out how below.

Embrace the love bug

Love is beautiful, especially when it’s still new and the butterflies are still in your stomach. Don’t shun the feeling, embrace it. Talk to the person on the phone for hours, take walks with that person. Why deny yourself the opportunity to love and be loved in return? The ‘You hand up, no you hang up’ kind of love is what we are all about.

Go out more often

It is advisable for you to go out from time to time. Try out new things at that. Go to different restaurants, go dancing, watch movies and try out new things together. This keeps the love flowing and holds up the butterflies higher for much longer.

Create memories

Do things you’ve never done before. Create a solid foundation for your union. Remember, when the hype and all the butterflies die down, you will need something to fall back on, the memories will be there to hold you down.
Find a song that you can both enjoy and relate to. Such will make you smile when you hear the song respectively in the absence of each other.

Hold hands

There is something magical about holding hands with the person you are affectionately attracted to, I haven’t put my finger on it yet, but trust me, there is. Whether you are taking that long walk, long drive, or just walking at the mall, hold hands. You will thank me later.

Don’t give it up too easily

It is said that some relationships are like birthday parties, once the cake is eaten, the party is over. To a certain extent, this is true. Don’t give up the cake too soon. Get to know the person, being drunk in love is great, being sober in love is even greater.

Let the person embrace and caress your personality before they do your body. However, it should also be noted that when somebody is there for the cake, whether it gets to be eaten at the beginning or at the end of the party, they will go once they have eaten it.

Once the memories have been created as backup, leaving will not be an overnight decision for the both of you, whether the cake has been eaten or not.

Resist the social media bug

When one is in love, they want to tell the whole world about their “Bae”… which we understand. But, just as you are not supposed to go shopping when you are hungry, we advise you not to make such decisions when the butterflies are still hyper.

A new relationship is subject to a lot of factors that might disturb its growth, so just before you want your ex-lovers respectively, to see that you have finally found love, create memories to fall back on first. Get your house in order first, and then you can involve the whole world into it.

Don’t think too far ahead

We all get into relationships with the mentality to stay, well, at least some of us. It must also be acknowledged that men are terrified at the thought of marriage, I still don’t know why. One of my male friends once said to me, “No man ever gets into a relationship with an intension to marry, their perception is then changed by the woman they are involved with.” Which at some extent, I believe is true. Love for today, yesterday is history, and tomorrow is a mystery. Love and live right now!

Don’t leave out all the rest

In the midst of you wanting nothing but your partner, remember, you had friends and family before them. Don’t allow your surroundings to start feeling neglected because of your new relationship, lest they start disliking your partner for stealing you away from them.

Another point to ponder would be the fact that lovers come and go, family is forever there. Your friends will be there to listen to your sobbing stories over ice cream and yoghurt when and if it crumbles down.

Don’t forget yourself in the process

Embrace the selfishness of love. “When I love you, I love you because I look good and I feel good with you next to me,” they say.

Above all else, remember; you are the reason why your partner fell in love with you, so don’t forget yourself in the process. Take some days and spend some time with yourself, read, reflect, and nature yourself.

Always remember to do your homework, when somebody seems too good to be true, they ussually are. In case of doubt, trust the vibes you get, energy doesn’t lie.