Traditionally a time of joy, the year-end holidays are increasingly becoming a season of stress. But there are ways to keep your spirits festive.

As the holiday season approaches, South Africans from all walks of life eagerly anticipate Christmas. However, Sondré Adams, a registered counsellor at Cape Town Therapy Hub, says it is important to acknowledge that the silly season can also bring a surge in anxiety levels.

But what contributes to increased stress levels, and how can they be managed to ensure a more restful start to the new year?   

Stress inducers

Adams identifies several factors that can contribute to emotional distress during the festive season:

Economic strain: Financial pressures can make it difficult to afford holiday expenses.

Social expectations: The pressure to conform to societal expectations can lead to anxiety.

Family dynamics: Strained relationships with family members can be a source of stress.

Grief and loss: The holidays can be particularly difficult for those who have lost loved ones.

Consumerism: Excessive spending can lead to financial strain and stress.

Time management: Balancing work, family, and holiday preparations can be overwhelming.

Social isolation: Loneliness can exacerbate feelings of sadness and isolation.

Tips for coping with holiday pressure

Drop your standards: Focus on fun and human connections rather than striving to cook the perfect meal and set the perfect table. It is OK if there’s a bit of mess around – which is inevitable with visitors. What’s more important is a warm welcome and a relaxed environment.

Manage expectations: Communicate openly with family members and embrace diverse traditions. If having people around you all the time gets too much, take a break – go for a walk or take a drive.

Self-care: Prioritise self-care activities like exercise, meditation, and relaxation. Learn to say ‘no’ and do not over-schedule yourself. Don’t overindulge in food and alcohol, get enough sleep and exercise to promote overall well-being.

Financial planning: Set a budget and prioritise meaningful gifts and experiences.

It is OK to grieve: Honour those who have passed away. Consider adjusting your holiday traditions to better cope with your grief. You might also find comfort in incorporating a new tradition that honours the memory of your loved one. It is OK to be sad at times.

Seek support: Reach out to friends, support groups, or mental health professionals.

Volunteer and give back: Acts of kindness can boost your well-being.

“South Africa’s diverse context adds a unique layer of complexity to the mental health challenges faced during the Christmas season,” says Adams. By recognising the contributing factors and implementing self-care strategies, individuals can navigate this period more smoothly.

Combatting holiday season loneliness

The South African Depression and Anxiety Group highlights the prevalence of loneliness, grief, and depression during the festive season. Here are some tips to combat loneliness:

Connect with others: Reach out to friends and family, join social groups or volunteer.

Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself and avoid self-criticism.

Engage in hobbies and interests: Pursue activities that bring you joy and fulfilment.

Seek professional help: If you are struggling, consider talking to a therapist or counsellor.