The unexpected grief that comes with moving house

As a mover, not a shaker, I have had an eye-opening experience over the past few weeks.

Moving house is often seen as a milestone – a fresh start, a new beginning, or a step forward in life, I was told, but what happens after the dust settles and the final box is unpacked?

The lead-up to a move is often stressful: packing, planning and logistics.

All true. But once I was in my new home, a surprising wave of various emotions surfaced – sometimes joy, but also grief, confusion and even regret. This phenomenon is common, I believe, especially if you’ve left behind familiar streets, friends, or memories.

I think it is because our homes often anchor our sense of self. The street we live on, the coffee shop we frequent, even the light through a certain window in the afternoon – these things subtly shape our identity.

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After a move, there’s a strange in-betweenness: I was still me, but the context has changed.

Rebuilding a sense of belonging definitely takes time.

I found that I was missing things I didn’t even realise mattered.

It’s not just an emotional experience – moving can throw one’s routine into chaos.

Where’s the nearest pharmacy? The best place to buy groceries? Small frustrations add up, making one feel like a stranger in one’s own life.

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If you’ve moved to a new city or away from your support system, like I did, loneliness can set in once the initial busyness fades.

Making new connections takes effort and time. Many people underestimate how isolating the post-move period can be, particularly if you’re working from home or don’t have an immediate community.

Despite the challenges, the aftermath of a move also carries the seed of personal growth, I found.

Adapting to a new environment can stretch one in unexpected ways.

I discovered how resilient I am, how I manage uncertainty and what really matters to me.

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Over time, new routines formed, new friendships blossomed and my new house recently began to feel like a true home.

The truth is, the aftermath of moving house is not just about decorating or learning a new address – it’s about transition.

If you are moving soon, give yourself grace. Take time to sit in the in-between, to feel both the loss of what was and the possibility of what’s to come.

You may just be amazed at how resilient you are.