Coping with school stress – A word from Nadine
"If you feel you are being bullied, speak out! Parents do not dismiss what your child has to say but be aware of your own reactions. Teach children to address bullying in a non violent manner. Parents must be aware of their own actions as very often children carry these behaviours to school. Kids may not always listen to us but they are always watching us."
THE first day of the new school year has come and gone and, with it, the usual stress and excitement generally associated with the return to the routine.
We caught up with local Psychological Counsellor and mother, Nadine Pillay of H.O.P.E Wellness and Development, a local wellness consultancy, and asked her for some tips and advice on coping with the daily demands of schoolgoing children.
With children back to school, do you have any tips on how to improve your child’s learning and studying habits?
“Firstly, forming a routine at home is vital. Children need boundaries and guidelines. Less TV, a good night’s sleep and diet also plays a huge role when it comes to learning.”
What would you recommend to encourage children who are reluctant readers?
“Make reading fun. Know the child’s interests and introduce books on topics that interest them. Use technology such as online reading, ebooks, etc. Trips to the library can make reading a social experience.”
Is it true that boys and girls have different ways of learning? If so, what guidelines could you offer to parents or teachers to encourage children to reach their full potential?
“I feel that every child has their own unique way of learning. It is very important to embrace that style of learning in order to reach the child’s potential. Be creative with learning.”
What advice would you give to mothers who tire themselves out trying to keep up with the ‘perfect mom’ role?
“Women need to realise that there is no perfection in parenting. We all make mistakes and that’s okay. Parents are human too. We often try to be the perfect mom at the expenses of our own ‘selves’. My advice is to always find balance and to make time for yourself. Let go of the guilt, there are times when we have to put ourselves first. A healthy happy parent makes a healthy happy child!”
How do you deal with homework stress?
“Teach kids time management skills and how to schedule homework and study time. Parents should be actively involved with children. Check homework and assist where necessary. Personally, I feel it’s important that children are also independent when it comes to homework. Parents should not ‘take over’ but play a supportive role instead.
Parents should also be cautious that they are not imposing too much pressure on the child. Parents needs to communicate with their kids and children should not be burdened with too many extra curricular activities.”
Any advice on bullying?
“If you feel you are being bullied, speak out!
Parents do not dismiss what your child has to say but be aware of your own reactions. Teach children to address bullying in a non violent manner. Parents must be aware of their own actions as very often children carry these behaviours to school. Kids may not always listen to us but they are always watching us.”
Lastly, how much technology or television is too much?
“Not more than 20 minutes of television per day. No cellphones or laptops during meals or at bedtime. We cannot completely distance our kids from the technology but we can control usage.”
In closing, Nadine added, “Discipline starts at home. Schools alone cannot enforce discipline if parents are not on board”
