Letter to my physical and emotional rapists:
In today’s society, “NO” does not mean “NO” anymore! The word “NO” has been disregarded and dismissed and holds NO value or relevance anymore!
Little do people know, that the word “NO”, is a complete sentence!! This two letter word requires “NO” justification or explanation!
Your wealth and status does not abscond you from what you did!
I was a victim of rape 14 years ago in Newcastle, by a so called “Man of Stature,” and because of fear, I chose to remain silent, and men found it exhilarating to sexually and emotionally exploit me in the years that followed.
…When I said “No”, they believed…
• My NO to them meant that I wasn’t valued, because I was soft spoken and shy!
• My NO to them meant YES, because I was wearing shorts and a pretty top!
• My NO to them meant it was okay to emotionally and sexually abuse and manipulate me!
• My NO to them meant, let us silence this raped woman’s voice more by calling her vulgar names!
• My NO to them meant, let us get her to question her own morals and values!
• My NO to them meant, let us pressurise her, until she becomes submissive to our demands and emotionally self destructs!
• My NO to them meant, it is OK for them to make me feel I need to blame myself for their actions!
• My NO to them meant, I was of NO significant value!
• My NO to them meant, let us make her feel even guiltier, so that she blames herself!
• My NO to them meant YES, even if I was crying!
• My NO to them meant YES, even if I pleaded for them to leave me alone!
• My NO to them meant, let’s destroy her already crippled mind, piece at a time!
• My NO to them meant, let us disregard her feelings no matter what she says!
• My NO to them meant, let’s silence her by humiliating her in front of friends and her husband by use of sexual and emotional abuse!
• My NO to them meant, raping me is not rape, because they present themselves as “my friend” thus believing they have rights to my body!
• My NO to them meant, if we don’t have the opportunity to abuse her, let us convince her to share her body with other men!
• My NO to them meant, if we can’t physically abuse her, let’s abuse her psychologically!
• My NO to them meant, let us confuse her that much more, that she actually apologises to us for hurting her!
• My NO to these men meant that because I was raped, I was nothing more than a Jezebel!
• My NO didn’t mean anything to these men!
• My NO was completely ignored by these men!
• My NO in today’s world wasn’t “NO” to these men!
My mind was crippled, abused, manipulated and eradicated, because in today’s society – a woman’s “NO” does not exist! In today’s society, women are objects!
Objects for rape, sexual coercion, sexual abuse, sexual assault, sexual harassment, verbal harassment, verbal assault, emotional rape, and emotional abuse and candidly, worthless to a very large majority of men in this world!
And so, how ironic be it that these men, get publicised as upstanding citizens!
Men with honour, dignity, and morals, because they have used their money and status to do so-called “good” in their communities!
They get awarded the title of “Hero” and get idolised by the public! While the women they abuse get thrown out like trash, and trampled over by other men, and it is the women that are being perceived as the Bad Ones, the Jezebels, and according to these men, the women just got what they deserved!
It makes me sick to my stomach to know that this is the type of men that are walking around among us, daily!
These men are sexual predators and don’t belong in society, because behind their masked identities they have raped, crushed, broken, humiliated, demoralised and emotionally abused girls and women that are now too frightened, traumatised and hurt to speak up, and make their voices heard!
I am one of those women that is finding her voice after being quiet for so many years! I am completely shattered, and will no longer be fearful and keep quiet about the abuse and trauma that these types of men inflict, without any sense of conscience and remorse!
Note of encouragement to women out there:
Take a deep, inward look at yourself in the mirror; you will know who you are!
Never be afraid of speaking your truth, because you are valued and appreciated in the eyes of God and you are not alone! Remaining silent just manifests more severe damage, spiritual demise and psychological pain upon yourself!
Rather make your voices known. I am living proof of staying silent. Your silence doesn’t heal your pain. Don’t protect them; protect yourself from men like this! Protect your daughters from falling prey to rapists, soul thieves, emotional and physical abusers, victimisers, psychopaths, narcissists, and sociopaths!
Break the silence, and make your voices heard.
Note to these men:
I will no longer remain silent. You have masqueraded as “respectable, renowned gentlemen” for too long, but I know who and what you really are! I have found my voice and my strength and soon the ivory towers you hide in will crumble and all will see you without your mask on!
Anonymous
