Nadia Buckus

Moms running on empty is a serious problem in today’s society. Evenings are spent making meals, helping with homework and giving baths.

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We are always planning, and checking items off the ever-growing list in our minds. Moms who are TOO GOOD, who give TOO MUCH, who want to be TOO PERFECT in everything we do. We aren’t too proud to ask for help when we need it, but the mental load isn’t something we can hand off when it becomes overwhelming.

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It doesn’t work like that. We will gladly share the tasks and responsibilities of parenthood, but the chatter of the mental load always remains, even if only as a whisper, because mothers are the gatekeepers.

We are the last in the line of assurance, making sure that everyone has what they need. We see what’s missing, even when no one else does, it’s our gift. So, we carry this load out of love, because we care deeply.

Moms who give away all their energy and have no time to refill their empty emotional tanks need to remember that unfortunately, we can’t give what we don’t have. We refill our car petrol tanks on a regular basis. Our emotional tank requires regular refills too!

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Go for a walk, dance to your favourite song, connect with positive people, enjoy a cup of tea with someone who empowers you, buy flowers for someone you love, learn something new, read a book, take a deep breath and enjoy the moment!

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