Good judgment, a careful sense of timing, courage and prudence – these are the qualities we shall need when we take Step Nine. – Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions.

To make amends can be viewed two ways: first, that of repairing damage, for if I have damaged my neighbour’s fence, I “make a mend,” and that is a direct amend; the second way is by modifying my behaviour, for if my actions have harmed someone, I make a daily effort to cause no further harm.

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I “mend my ways,” and that is an indirect amend. Which is the best approach?

The only right approach, provided that I am causing no further harm in so doing, is to do both. If harm is done, then I simply “mend my ways.” To take action in this manner assures me of making honest amends.

Just for today
If I want to find out who I am, I’ll look at who I’ve been and who I want to be.
Uma unenkinga yophuzo oludakyo siza thintana nalezi nobolo ezingezanzi.