OPINION: Could this apply to us too, darling?
So, if two people, who are good friends, find after 45 years feel their mutual interactions are no longer mutually satisfying the friendship is mutually terminated.
I happened upon a TV movie this week to hear a thought provoking comment in the script.
The detectives were discussing marriages that had stood the test of time and successfully navigated the sometimes troubled waters of a relationship.
We are talking marriages of 50 and 60 years of togetherness.
For good or bad, sickness and health.
The situation was that this married couple had reached 56 years of matrimonial bliss and, unfortunately, the husband’s health had taken a turn for the worse.
He was hospitalised and it was just a matter of time before he joined the choir invisible.
He reportedly called his wife nearer and whispered to her ‘I never should have married you’.
A little taken aback, she looked him steady in the eye and said to him ‘and I never should have married you’.
What a declaration. What a shock. All those years of happy together totally wasted.
Can you imagine the effect on the family and friends. Utter disbelief!
Now, step back a second.
Marriage is a union of two persons, a formalised sharing of a deep friendship between two humans of opposite sex.
Generally, for the purpose of producing children who are labelled legitimate, but still a relationship of mutual satisfaction and interaction.
So, if two people, who are good friends, find after 45 years feel their mutual interactions are no longer mutually satisfying the friendship is mutually terminated. No damage. No antagonism. And the couple just move on.
The point is this. If two or more friends find that after many many years they have grown apart and no longer share the same interactions – they move on. Change partners as it were.
I wonder how many married couples would contemplate owning up to the hard truth, that after all those years together, that that union should never have been. I wonder?
Remember, relationships change. We grow as people. We change as individuals according to outside influences. That is fact.
Something to contemplate.
HAPPINESS STAN
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