EDITOR – I am of the opinion that during our process of healing, forced forgiveness isn’t the best option.
People are hurt. The community, popular leaders and political parties feel the pressure to ask people to forgive those who wronged them. It can be hard to ignore.
We hear forgiveness is essential and that it is the only way to heal and move on. But, from experiences in our country, we know it is not true.
Sometimes forgiveness is not the best option, it is the worst option in certain cases.
It is up to you to decide if you will forgive or not. Consider the situation and your other options and decide what is best for you.
Some points to consider:
• Analyse the situation.
• Go through a healing process.
• Is it the right time?
• It may cause you to suppress your anger if you forgive too quickly. Forgiveness must come from those who caused the hurt, not from someone else. The decision to forgive or not is entirely up to you. People should not control the decision and it must not be forced.
PASTOR ROY NAIR
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