Encourage each other
If one of you is starting to lapse, that’s when the other’s support is more important than ever. Language you use to discuss changes to your drinking can make a big difference – encourage your partner to stick to their goals, rather than demanding they do so. Instead of ‘you must do this’ or ‘you need to do that’, try highlighting the advantages of drinking less. Point out what you’re both gaining by making changes.
Treat each other
Instead of drinking every time you eat together, save the wine for a special candlelit dinner. When you do drink, don’t feel you have to finish the bottle. Take it in turns to bring home a treat instead of a bottle of wine – some nice chocolate, or ingredients for that special dinner you can cook together.
Cut down on alcohol together: feel the benefits
Working together towards a goal, and supporting your partner to achieve something in itself, is something really positive.
Make an effort to notice how you feel.
Alcohol is a depressant
It’s overall effect is to suppress the hormones that make you feel happy. So without it you find yourself feeling brighter. Maybe you’re fresher in the morning too after a better night’s sleep, or are generally healthier and more energetic. Feeling less tired can help keep petty arguments at bay. Tell each other about the positive changes you’re seeing, such as weight loss. This will help you stick to your goals.
Just for today
I will appreciate that one special person in my life – my sponsor.
The AA Estcourt branch hosts meetings every Tuesday at Forderville Primary School from 7pm to 8pm. Contact Desigan on 082 849 3014.
The AA Winterton branch hosts meetings every Thursday at the Springfield Church opposite the police station from 7pm to 8pm. Contact Dolly on 071 688 5330 or Virgilo on 079 688 0432.
