If you think about it, it’s pretty rare to find the kind of friend who will stick by your side through it all. They will glorify you when you’re successful. They won’t disappear when you hit rock bottom.
Instead, they walk steadily by your side. And they know you’ll stand steadily by theirs. Because you will. Because that’s just what best friends do. Of course, it’s not your responsibility to be a best friend to everyone, or even most anyone.
You would be emotionally drained and exhausted and not such an awesome best friend! But, do yourself an epic favour and choose a few. Several, if you can. If you want best friendship, you’ve got to give it first. Who has been there for you through thick and thin?
Who matters most to you because of the person they are and are becoming, not just for what they can offer you right now? Who can you count on to be the best flavour of best friend to you? Who are you certain of? Whoever is on that list, love the heck out of them.
Be relentless in your patience, grace, thoughtfulness, and kindness towards them. They are rare gems. Hold them close. Keep them sparkling. And if you’re having trouble remembering who you should most be a best friend to?
Just remember this:
They are the ones who will love you, even—and, perhaps, especially—when you aren’t very lovable. They are the ones you’re certain will, after a big fight, still end the conversation saying, “I still like you. I still love you.”
They will play on your team, even if you’re in the middle of a big losing streak. Those are your true, best friends. Love them back accordingly. Who are your best friends? Go tell them.
