Support group for single moms
The founder of the online group, Esther Boersma, believes children need to see their moms smile more often. Through the group, single moms receive replenished energy and motivation.
POLOKWANE – A smile is a universal gesture and children need to see their moms smile more often. It is for this reason that Esther Boersma, a local businesswoman who is also a single mom, started a support group for single mothers. She also created a Facebook Page, Successful Moms’ Polokwane, to support single moms by posting inspirational information.
“Children need to see their mothers smile. A mother’s smile uplifts a child’s heart and helps them believe that everything will be fine in the end. A smile wipes away worries and fears,” she said.
Single moms need to know they are not alone, and often it is difficult to smile, Esther says.
“This was also part of my journey. My church offered a support group for single parents and it was an eye-opener to see there were so many single parents going through the same challenges.”
When a mother realises that she is not alone, she experiences new strength. Listening to how other parents tackle their challenges, inspires new ways of thinking. A support group is essential to a mother’s sanity, is Esther’s advice.
Successful Moms’ Polokwane believes that mothers need some of the weight taken off their shoulders.
“That help could be financial assistance or emotional help, or even just a day off. Mothers are on duty around the clock, whether they have a nine-to-five job or not. They never have time off physically or mentally. Caring for their children is their first priority, and they often neglect themselves in the process.”
According to Esther, moms need an emotional support system, someone she can talk to, seek advice from or just an ear to listen.
“Every woman, especially a mother, needs to feel like a lady. A single mom plays the role of a mother and father simultaneously. Mothers need to feel beautiful, special and loved. In my experience as a single parent, I’ve learnt that the last person you look after, is often yourself. Having your nails done or hair cut doesn’t fit into the budget, so it never gets done. But we need replenished energy and motivation to look after our children.”
Esther is in the process to start a non-profit organisation through which she can fund meetings for moms, and workshops to educate them on financial matters and parenting skills.
