The month of love is almost over, Valentine’s Day came and went and some relationships are still firmly standing, while others have ended.
Some couples exchanged gifts while others argued throughout Valentine’s Day, just to avoid buying any presents.
So what’s next now that the roses and teddy season is over?
Do we go back to being couples who don’t spoil each other?
Or do we up our game for next year’s V-day?
Oh well whether you got chocolate and red roses or not, if your relationship is based on material things, chances are it won’t last anyways.
I would rather not get gifts on February 14 and be treated with respect and be in a committed monogamous relationship.
Because getting those forwarded messages on WhatsApp and Facebook does not count. Which reminds me, growing up my grandmother would orate to us about how Valentine’s Day is for side chicks who are enlivened by minor things and that Mother’s Day is for wife material girlfriends, LOL!
I don’t know how true that is because it meant both parties received gifts on different days.
How she weighed the importance of each is still foreign to me.
However, I still fail to understand how some people use V-day to validate their relationship status.
Does not getting a gift on this specific date mean it’s the end of the road for your relationship?
Each couple is different so I guess it all comes down to the spouses’ beliefs, values, and preferences.
If your partner values being treated romantically on V-day then both parties should go all out in spoiling each other, even if it’s by means of spending the day together doing what you both enjoy doing.
Be it going to the cinema, going fishing or going ballroom dancing. If one party doesn’t believe in V-day, then for the sanity of your relationship, do something romantic for your partner just to put a smile on their face so that they know their happiness counts.
In an ideal world, V-day would be celebrated every day even if it’s by means of sending each other sweet texts during the day or the little things such as cleaning after yourself if you have a stay at home wife, she surely would appreciate not having to do all the house chores even when you are home.
Or by taking care of the children when you are home and giving your house helper a random day off… she surely would appreciate that.
It is indeed the small things that count when it comes to love, and love is not shared with spouses only but with people we interact with on a daily basis, be it at work with colleagues, at the gym with your gym club members or with your neighbours.
Love is a beautiful thing which knows no V-day date, no colour and no nationality… let’s all go out there and spread love beyond the February month.
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