How to cool it during an argument

Do you explode with the best of them when someone angers you?

Do you say things that you do not mean when aggravated?

If so, you are not the only one.

Nonetheless, that does not make it okay to lose your temper towards anyone else. It is not an excuse justifying saying hurtful things.

Before you get emotional, irrational and say or do something you may regret, take these five steps to keep your cool during conflict.

1. Remove yourself from the situation. What you need most right now is some time alone to process what happened.
2. Take a few deep breaths and listen to relaxing music.
3. Grab a pen and a notebook and jot down your feelings. What happened? What is the result? In what way were you violated? How does it make you feel?
4. Remember: every person deserves the right to account for the way a situation turned out. As soon as you can calmly do so, go back to the person who aggravated you. If you feel any need to repair the relationship, try to mediate and compromise through the situation and toward a solution. If you have been hurt too much and cannot see the need to continue a relationship with this person, have a civil conversation about it and clarify that new boundaries now exist.
5. Find a way to deal with reality. The situation is what it is. Rise above it – with or without the other party to the dispute.

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