As the holiday season approaches, South Africans from all walks of life eagerly anticipate Christmas.

However, Sondré Adams, a registered counsellor at Cape Town Therapy Hub, says it is important to acknowledge that the ‘silly season’ can also bring a surge in stress levels.

“South Africa’s diverse context, characterised by a myriad of cultural and societal factors, plays a significant role in shaping these challenges,” she says.

But what contributes to increased stress levels and how can they be managed to ensure that when ‘normal life’ resumes in January, we feel more rested?

Stress inducers

Adams says that family tensions, financial woes, and grief are among the influences that place added pressure on people over the December/January holidays. She lists the seven main factors that could contribute to emotional angst over this time:

1. Economic strain: Many South Africans experience financial stress, making it difficult to afford holiday expenses, such as gifts, travel, and feasts. The economic disparities in the country amplify this issue.
2. Social expectations: South Africa’s diverse cultural landscape means various traditions and customs during the festive season. People may feel pressure to conform to these expectations, leading to anxiety about family gatherings and celebrations.
3. Family dynamics: Family gatherings can be both joyful and challenging. Some individuals may have strained relationships with relatives, leading to increased emotional stress during the holidays.
4. Grief and loss: The holidays can be especially difficult for those who have lost loved ones, and South Africa has faced significant loss due to the Covid-19 pandemic.
5. Consumerism: The pressure to engage in excessive spending during Christmas can lead to financial strain and stress, particularly for those with limited resources.
6. Time management: Balancing work, family commitments, and holiday preparations can be overwhelming. People often feel the need to ‘do it all’, leading to exhaustion.
7. Social isolation: For those who are far from family or have small social circles, the holidays can be lonely, exacerbating feelings of isolation and sadness.

Adams’ tips for coping with holiday pressure:

1. Financial planning: Set a budget for holiday spending and stick to it. Focus on meaningful gifts and experiences, rather than expensive ones.
2. Manage expectations: Communicate openly with family members about your limits and boundaries. Embrace the diversity of traditions and customs in South Africa, but prioritise your well-being.
3. Self-care: Prioritise self-care activities like exercise, meditation, and relaxation techniques. Take time for yourself when needed.
4. Seek support: Reach out to friends, support groups, or mental health professionals if you are feeling overwhelmed, lonely, or anxious.
5. Volunteer and give back: Consider giving back to your community during the festive season. Acts of kindness can boost your well-being.

“South Africa’s diverse context adds a unique layer of complexity to the mental health challenges faced during the Christmas season,” says Adams.

She adds that by recognising the contributing factors, understanding the pressures, and implementing strategies for self-care and support, individuals can navigate this period more smoothly. ‘Remember that the holidays are a time for joy and connection, and with the right approach, you can return to January feeling rested and rejuvenated.”

December depression

The South African Depression and Anxiety Group (Sadag) says that for many, the countdown to the year-end holidays comes with looming dread.

Sadag says the calls to its helplines from members of the public at this time of the year relate to loneliness, grief and depression. Currently, Sadag receives about 3 000 calls per day, and hundreds more emails, SMSes, and social media and WhatsApp messages. It says many people feel helpless, hopeless, burnt out, and physically and emotionally exhausted. One in four calls are suicide related.

Severe loneliness is responsible for many people’s depression, says Sadag. Some people’s family may be far away and they cannot afford to visit, while others dread facing a significant holiday without a deceased loved one. It could be the first Christmas after a divorce or break-up.

Financial troubles can also lead to depression, says Sadag, with many families unable to afford food, let alone presents.

“There is so much heaviness around us that for many people, the holiday season does not equal the festive joy that is portrayed in movies or glossy ads,” says Sadag.

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