Enhle Mbali Mlotshwa has responded to DJ Black Coffee’s claim she is using gender based violence to separate him from his children.
In a statement on Wednesday, Mbali said: “I would never exploit domestic violence and waste the court’s time for my own benefit.”
She has detailed her alleged experiences during her marriage to DJ Black Coffee, real name Nkosinathi Maphumulo.
After applying for a protection order on Monday against her estranged husband, Black Coffee denied claims of domestic abuse on Tuesday, that he assaulted Mbali and claiming she had “misled the public”.
Black Coffee said Mbali was using domestic violence to separate him from his children.
The actress started by explaining why she had chosen to speak out now.
“For the most part I have been silent in an effort to amicably resolve these challenges in my marriage as well as to limit the effects of a toxic environment on my growing children. However, as I have grown to realise, the cycle of abuse is ongoing and relentless as it feeds off of fear.”
The couple parted ways in 2019 after allegations of infidelity by Black Coffee. Mbali says she is no longer “fearful” and wants to recount some incidents and why she applied for a protection order.
“He has beaten, berated, rendered me broken and unworthy. I have within the marriage and now as an estranged spouse endured gaslighting, emotional, verbal abuse, physical abuse and financial abuse at his behest. The extent of the turmoil I experienced in the marriage as a result of the abuse and the extramarital affairs were so severe that I was admitted to a facility and treated for depression.”
She says the last five years had been “agony” and their children had “unfortunately witnessed” the alleged abuse. She listed examples of incidents when the musician allegedly struck her multiple times in 2014, during her 33th birthday celebrations and in 2019 when “he threw a bag at my face during an argument”.
“Since the beginning of our divorce proceedings he has continually used intimidation and financial muscle in an attempt to silence me. I stand firm in my assertions.”
Her intention was not to make their private matters public, Mbali says but rather in the past she has been “pushed to defend the sanctity of the marriage” and raising boy children she wants to teach about GBV and respecting individuals.
“I hope that as a society we will stand behind victims and give them the support that they need.”
Black Coffee said he would categorically oppose the permanence of the protection order and its prescripts.