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By Hein Kaiser

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Is your sex life as dry as your winter skin? Try these 7 tips for steamy winter sex

Winter is not just the time to cuddle up and binge watch television, it can also be a time for some red-hot sex.


It’s getting colder, everything’s turning brown, and the grass is no longer green on any side of the fence. Winter is not just the time to cuddle up and binge watch television, it can also be a time for some red-hot sex.

This, even though many people tend to experience lower libidos during winter, said sexpert Pippa Murphy of Condoms.uk.

Why you have a low sex-drive in winter

She said it’s all about various levels of seasonal affective disorder. Days are shorter, winter sun is weaker, and this reduces the amount of melatonin and serotonin that your body produces. These are the two chemicals that help regulate mood, and in winter, to varying degrees, it can make us sadder. It can also lead to a lower libido.

Seven steps to steamy winter nookie

Murphy says there are ways to overcome this dip in libido and maintain a healthy sex life during the colder months. She suggests that sex can be good for your mental health, releasing feel-good hormones like endorphins and oxytocin, which can help combat anxiety and depression.

Murphy says it is crucial to prioritize intimacy and find ways to reignite the spark in your sex life and maintain a healthy relationship during the winter months. She has the following tips for couples to get things steamy in the bedroom.

Make lube your new best friend

Vaginal dryness is a common symptom of seasonal affective disorder, which can result in sex being painful or difficult. To combat this, you should add moisture to your diet by drinking more water and eating more fruit and vegetables.

“However, the quickest and easiest way to overcome vaginal dryness is to use lube. Not only does it counteract vaginal dryness, it can also enhance pleasure, making it easier for both parties to reach orgasm,” explains Murphy.

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Remove the streaming, from binge-watch ‘n’ chill

While cold nights are the perfect excuse to binge-watch a TV show with your lover, these sessions aren’t great for your sex life. Being exposed to the blue light of TV screens and phone screens keep you awake at night and, unfortunately, a lack of sleep can impact your sex drive.

Murphy suggests: “Instead, you should spend one or two nights a week switching up movie marathon nights for board game nights, or even just chatting to one another with your favourite music at night. This will make it easier to get into the mood.”

Get the sexy talk on

Ask your partner what they find sexy about you and make it fun. Naturally, during the colder months, you’re more likely to be wearing loungewear, cosy clothing, or lots of layers. This may make you feel disconnected from your body, and even less attractive, which makes it hard to get in the mood for sex. It’s a simple solution, but asking your partner what they find sexy about you can overcome this.

“You may think your partner finds you most sexy when you’re dressed up to the nines, but chances are it’s not something so superficial. Find out what it is. Not only will this give you both a confidence boost, but it could also lead to better sex if they mention something that you can export to the bedroom,” said Murphy.

Kiss more

The six-second kiss method showed that couples who kiss for at least six seconds had the most successful relationships. Murphy said that a lingering kiss gives you enough time to get out of your brain and, instead, be in the moment.

Get yourself excited

Spend time getting yourself sexually excited, too.  “If you feel sexier, you’ll want more great sex so it’s important to set aside some of your own time to get sexually charged. Tips to get there include taking yourself lingerie shopping, reading an erotic book, masturbation or watch porn. Watching a movie that features a lot of sex can also result in shifting gears,” says Murphy.

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Don’t sweat it

If you’re not feeling up to sex, don’t worry, either. Murphy says there’s a common misconception that sex is intimacy, but nothing can be further from the truth. She suggested focusing on building non-sexual intimacy by making time for a date day or night every single week.

You don’t even have to leave the house. Instead, it could be something as simple as ordering a new takeaway and leaving the TV off to make way for cuddling and conversation, or cooking a three-course meal together, so your mind is preoccupied. It will help build a stronger bond between couples.

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